3 YEARS :)) - WOW how time flies - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!! (Updated)

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by hsf.lpd, Mar 28, 2014.

  1. daguilara

    daguilara Age: 20 - I will definitely beat this addiction!!

    Re: 1 YEAR !!! - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!

    Nice post it just what I have been needed to read this days that the temptation has been increasing.

    YHWH bless you.
     
  2. bpm103

    bpm103 New Member

    Re: 400 DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    Good post... Needed this.... Specifically to hear that you just quit because you didn't like that you did it. I wonder to myself if that will be enough motivation, ya know? Because I don't have the physical ailments - aside from not being able to bust every time. That I always saw as kind of a blessing because it's better than PE or lasting one minute. But then again, maybe the porn is keeping me from wanting to go multiple rounds with a woman I really dig. Who knows?

    All is know is that porn and excessive masturbation has caused me problems, I have tried to quit and been unable, and when I do try to quit I experience withdrawal. That there says I'm addicted. Period.

    I agree that it's important to have a spiritual element to recovery. Probably because I am experienced in AA. With that said, I am not one to preach or wave my hands in the air about it. I find that obnoxious. But you know what? That's MY issue! It makes me uncomfortable. That's MY issue too. I definitely pray... A lot! And I am convinced that it works. I think it's because there is a God. But it could be something psychological. I am open minded to all possibilities... Including that there is some dude in the sky looking out for me.

    Whatever works!

    I thank God today for keeping me committed to nofap and to my sobriety from drugs, alcohol, porn, hookers, etc.

    I also thank you all. This site is so helpful!
     
  3. annabook

    annabook Member

    Re: 400 DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    I think OP brings a lot of good stuff to the table. Not religious myself, but I think feeding ones spiritual side can make for a better life overall. Good on you! I appreciate the thread.
     
  4. WakeUpOSleeper

    WakeUpOSleeper "Rage, rage against the dying of the light."

    Re: 400 DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    Thanks for the encouragement and tips. I especially appreciate the 5th one on keeping anchored in the Word. This is something I somehow struggle to focus on daily when I've got prayer and worship music consistent in my life. Without the Word, my sword definitely dulls. God bless you!
     
  5. hsf.lpd

    hsf.lpd Light Pure Strong Confident Love Alive Disciplined

    Re: 400 DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!


    approaching 500 days..


    I am a christian and will therefore wait till marriage. So, that is 500 days no PMO, no MO, and no sex either.

    I HAVE MADE A MISTAKE, so for anyone reading this, who is also 200+ days on the journey of no releases (except the wet dreams, which do happen and is ok), know that this is A SPIRITUAL BATTLE. It is going on in your mind & in spiritual realm.

    MY MISTAKE WAS THIS: in the last couple of weeks or even months I lived too WORLDLY. In my thoughts , in the TV stuff I watched, in the prolonged glancing of "hot" girls out on the street...

    The result of my mistake: HUGE TENSION IN the REPRODUCTIVE AREA

    The SOLUTION IS NOT in MASTURBATING ,
    the SOLUTION IS TO TAKE ON THE FULL ARMOR OF GOD.
    TO LIVE SPIRITUALLY to PRAY, to READ, to do GOOD , WHOLESOME things... to DENY THE WORLDLY LUSTS.

    When we live like that, there is NO DESIRE to masturbate, NO TENSION feeling, NO LUST , NO STRUGGLE, NO SIN

    So, sometimes people don't understand how can you not masturbate and not have sex and still operate normally,
    IT IS BECAUSE WE WON THE BATTLE IN THE SPIRITUAL REALM and IN OUR MINDS, and then ,
    IT IS NOT DIFFICULT TO STAY PURE, CLEAN. IT IS ONLY NORMAL. And you WILL NOT even remotely think about PMOing.

    When you live at this higher level, YOUR ENERGY IS INCREASED , your CHARISMA becomes stronger, and GIRLS will be more attracted to you, and you to them. And it will not be the LUST attraction, because you DENIED it, it will be the LOVE ATTRACTION.

    You want to connect with them deeper than physical , you want the SPIRITUAL connection, and that is the RIGHT WAY.

    WE MEN HAVE GOOD LUCK, because there are lots more pure girls then there are men. And so , it is almost impossible for girls to find that men, but for you, if you are 100% pure, it will be lots easier for you to find the girl that lives up to your standards.


    You will find slutty girls WICKED , ugly,
    and you will find PURE girls BEAUTIFUL.

    That is what happens more and more. BUT THE WRESTLE WITH THE LUST NEVER ENDS, you HAVE TO WIN THE BATTLE EVERYDAY.

    We have to stay in the UPRIGHT, PURE , WHOLESOME , living.


    11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.

    12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

    13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

    14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;

    15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;

    16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

    17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God

     
  6. clash

    clash New Member

    Re: 400 DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    With God, we can do impossible things. Thanks for your advice. It really helps!
    God bless!
    -cflash
     
  7. memory

    memory New Member

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    these mp3 audio is fast track to brain wash or rewire i only start to listen about 7 days and i am realy great ...that is like magic read this thread and download all four and listen them they are subliminal
    http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=10795.0
     
  8. hsf.lpd

    hsf.lpd Light Pure Strong Confident Love Alive Disciplined

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    In my opinion subliminals will not help.
     
  9. auzzie_mikey

    auzzie_mikey Active Member

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    So true.

    Only by praying to god has got me in this far in my reboot.

    He is killing the devil and keeping any sin away from me 8)
     
  10. auzzie_mikey

    auzzie_mikey Active Member

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    @ Supersonic

    Have you been completely clean from ALL porn, ALL MO in these 536 days?

    Please elaborate what exactly this 536 days mean
     
  11. hsf.lpd

    hsf.lpd Light Pure Strong Confident Love Alive Disciplined

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    Yes.

    PMO free
    P free
    MO free

    THE ENTIRE TIME.


    + I have been SINGLE the entire time ( I learned so much in this time, but now it is time to get a girl soon :) )

    But, I wasn't able to stop PMO, until I combined both: 1) KNOWLEDGE RULES (look at my 1st post) and 2) GOD!!! Jesus Christ.

    I should really put God no.1 , but the point is this: God wont save you from your troubles while you "do nothing" . You have TO WANT IT! You have to DO YOUR BEST! You have to PROVE by actions that you want to succeed, and only then will God help you. Then HE WILL DO MIRACLES! Just believe and put him no.1 ALWAYS.

    Hit the knees and pray. Watch Derek Prince on youtube and get FREE!! :)
     
  12. Metal

    Metal Get busy living or get busy dying

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    Hey supersonic, loved your post about the mistakes you were making. its great to see you fighting the good fight. Its about denying lust and staying committed to that battle which takes tremendous courage.

    I'm also noticing more that the slutty girls, I'm starting to detest as I feel uncomfortable around them while they try to use their sexuality to impress upon me. They're too use to lowly dogs drooling all over them so they think it will work on every guy.

    Its about valuing and respecting the real women

    Your story is inspirational.
     
  13. No.turning.back

    No.turning.back New Member

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    Question...

    My reboot status: I'm 27 and currently in my 5th week of rebooting (early, I know). Been watching porn since 14/15 and have never been able to get it up to fantasy alone. in the bedroom my results were mixed at best. Since rebooting, Urges to watch porn are not really there, and horniness/libido was VERY present and strong until this week, when it's a bit less. I have yet to experience morning wood since starting the reboot (except maybe once) and no wet dreams...but I've never had a wet dream (ever).

    My question/dilemma: There is a girl I'm interested in, met her through friends. If it leads to anything I'm unsure how to approach intimacy while rewiring, Should I be honest and show her Yourbrainonporn.com? I get that most women would like men that do not watch porn....that's obvious. But revealing something so sensitive in nature is daunting. Also, as mentioned, we have mutual friends. Any opinions or advice would be appreciated. I've seen tips saying to tell her you want to take it slow, or you're undergoing treatment that has side effects....but assuming this might be a relationship and not a fling, I'm not sure making something up is ideal.
     
  14. time2Bgr8

    time2Bgr8 New Member

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    So, I'm not religious, but your points on time have made me reflect more than most. Thank you for framing it in this way. It's a very powerful lens to view my life, the time wasted, and the freedom to come.
     
  15. hsf.lpd

    hsf.lpd Light Pure Strong Confident Love Alive Disciplined

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    @ No.turning.back

    OK, so just a few thoughts:

    Date girls and when/if you know you aren't going to marry her, end the relationship immediately.

    You don't need intimacy to know if she is the one.

    Girls are only PUT OFF by something, if you are PUT OFF by it. If you don't care that you are bald they will not care. If you care, they will care and be put off by it. WE FEEL each other's energies. Work on yourself. Accept , forgive (yourself included), admit , repent! , search your heart , read 1 gospel in the NEW testament.

    Your situation is not that bad. We all have issues. And that my friend is the truth.

    So, as a christian, it wouldn't even come to such a discussion with a girl. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. And that is a quote by God.

    Truly No.1 issue in today's world is sexual purity. No quality girl is going to leave you based on your ED. As for the "sluty" girls it's better for you if they do. And maybe the majority of girls is becoming "sluty" because the world sank so low, we are bombarded with evil and lustful things on EVERY step. And it's embedded into comedy, into music, TV, .. everything.

    But the good news is, girls naturally have a much more sensitive spirit than men, and they know(!) in many cases that purity is the right way. But men are leaders , and girls can sometimes fall prey to bad influences. But if you are strong and not put off by the truth and by being sexually pure, than she will 99% be more than super OK with it. Own it, and actually ignore it also. When you are it , you don't really need to say anything. So work on being! So anyway, I totally wandered off.. but hopefully you get something out of it.

    It is GREAT that you are not watching porn. Strive for PURE life and you will receive the true light.

    @time2Bgr8

    yes, that time thing totally hit me as well!
     
  16. elway1978

    elway1978 elway1978

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    I could not agree more with the 5 tips. Thanks for posting - much appreciated. I've faced this challenge for 22+ years now. I ain't some young kid. Tip #5 is as real and as important as any of the first four tips. Life experience has taught me that. AA talks about a higher power, about not seeing everything through some visible means, because out there are greater forces than within. Regardless, each tip provided has strong relevance to all of us as we sojourn along.
     
  17. Amifreeyet?

    Amifreeyet? New Member

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    you're awesome....god bless
     
  18. hsf.lpd

    hsf.lpd Light Pure Strong Confident Love Alive Disciplined

    Re: 500+ DAYS!! :)) - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    2 YEARS TODAY!



    TIMES FLIES GENTS, TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY AND STOP IT FOR GOOD, YOU WILL BE THANKFUL!

    We need "rules" to keep us on the good path. Because otherwise we just do what our flesh wants and then we are always trapped. For a true change of heart for me personally it's all about the rules I posted in my first post, and especailly God! But no worries, there comes a time when you no longer have to obey by the rules, because you will do it naturally. You will not even think about PMOing.

    So anyways, keep going strong. Just letting you know it's possible :)
     
  19. 903Days-NoP-NoM

    903Days-NoP-NoM New Member

    Re: 2 YEARS :)) - WOW how time flies - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

    Big congrats on the successful freedom from PMO.
    You wrote a great success story and presented it in an easy to read way.

    The only aspect of what you wrote about that I find off base is the reliance on J.C. or even G-d of any kind.

    There are loads of stories of religious people of all kinds who have fallen into the PMO trap. J.C. or any other spiritual practice is not going to get anyone clear of the PMO mindset on its own.

    Changing thought patterns and behavior patterns will. Your first four points are right on. Having an awareness of how distructive PMO is and keeping that in the front of our minds is the total game. The next steps are improving ourselves beyond the PMO mindset. Whether that self improvement involves some spiritual practice is almost besides the point.

    If we allow ourselves to think PMO oriented thoughts, no amount of spiritual practice will get us off the mat.

    I write this because I appreciate your post and want even those that do not agree with the whole spiritual/J.C. bandwagon to benefit by the good points you made.
     
  20. health

    health Guest

    Re: 2 YEARS :)) - WOW how time flies - 5 tips to SUCCESS!! - MUST READ!!!

     

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