2 Years Clean Update

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by RebornAgain, Aug 8, 2016.

  1. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    What's up YBR? It's been 26 months clean and my life has changed drastically. Started as a 26 year old virgin with a limp dick and no life to speak of.

    Since these days, my boners have come back. I went from a virgin to having successful sex with 8 different girls my first year clean. Last year, I met an awesome girl.

    Around that time, I went into an unexpected flat line. Took me several months to get through. I was honest with her, and she stuck with me through the troubles. I limited my orgasms through Karezza sex, and my erections have come back along with my sexual confidence.

    I've experienced everything during my sex reboot. Premature ejaculation one night, delayed ejaculation another night. Limp dick. Rock hard. Great sex. Sex that felt foreign to me.

    My girl has been amazing and helpful through this whole process. Lots of rewiring. Kissing. Cuddling. Hand holding.

    Last month, we got engaged in Florida!

    2 years, virgin at age 26, to now meeting my future wife who is a perfect match for me. We're planning a wedding. We're looking at buying a home. 2 years ago I would have said you were crazy. Life is completely different for me.

    I get these urges to go do something. It's hard to explain. I'm no longer lazy. When I'm home alone, I get an urge to call someone. I get an urge to be social and hang out. My confidence has skyrocketed. I'm being more real. I want to connect with other human beings. It's an amazing feeling.

    That's 2 full years clean! Zero relapses. 1 masturbation around 180 days to see if I could get hard to touch and touch alone. I did. It was great.

    Otherwise, no porn. No masturbation. No porn substitutes. Only orgasms through sex. I'm still limiting my orgasms to once every few weeks. Porn will never be an option for me and masturbation will never be an option.

    My body knows the only release it will get is through sex. So if it wants to O, it better find and keep a real life woman! Good luck to all. I still linger in the forums.
     
  2. Clips4Souls

    Clips4Souls Member

    very cool to hear brotha
     
  3. jerryson

    jerryson New Member

    wow love this wish m the one writing this
     
  4. Rengaw

    Rengaw Will log on every other week from 13/10/2016

    Hey man, congratulations on your engagement. I am happy for you and you're an example to me. You success shows that hard work pays off.

    Keep going forward!


    Rw
     
  5. unitcircular

    unitcircular Member

    That is awesome man! Congrats on becoming engaged. It is stories like these that give me hope.
     
  6. Mara430

    Mara430 Member

    Hi! Congrats man! I have a question for you!

    You said that "I'm still limiting my orgasms to once every few weeks" so are you still recovering and you must limit your orgasms because some negative effects? Or are you able to O everyday (or more) without any negative effects but for some other reason, you O once every few weeks?
     
  7. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    I can't orgasm every day or every few days. Too many orgasms sent me back in short flatlines.

    I also lose energy and motivation if I O too much bad headaches.

    So at this point, I have to limit orgasms
     
  8. Newnes

    Newnes Well-Known Member Staff Member

    That sounds amazing. I'm looking forward to it!
     
  9. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    Good luck Newnes. I always enjoy reading your posts.
     
  10. This is a great story. Congrats on getting engaged! If I could ask you a question about your second flatline? Did you come out of it right away or was it gradual? Did you realize when the flatline was over? I ask because I've had a similar timeline. Thought I was cured at about thirteen months and now at fifteen months have no idea where I'm at with PIED. Very frustrating because just one month ago everything was working great and now my erections suck again. If you can relate any experiences or advice to this I'd much appreciate it. Thanks!
     
  11. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    I can 100% relate to your last flatline. I had a similar one around 13 months. It has come back gradually. I tried forcing erections but it didn't work.

    Things only got better when I took a break from sex and orgasm again. My erections started to improve again.
     
  12. drummerdude

    drummerdude New Member

    Hi RebornAgain, congratulations on your engagement man!, and reading your story makes me so happy and gives me hope :).

    I'm 27yrs old, suffering from PIED since the last 4 years and unsuccessfully trying to quit, but determined now more than ever to beat this for good..

    I think i am one of the more severe cases here as since the last 2-3 years even porn doesn't get me excited and i have no libido for anything, but due to depression i keep relapsing every 3 weeks.. My relapses are basically when i'm low, calling in sick at work smoke a ton of weed (which i do everyday anyways), and watch porn for 8-10 hours continuous with 0 sex drive/erection (sad i know) just for the addiction to the images and to escape life temporarily sometimes for a couple of days back to back..

    I know the brain is plastic and can heal its rewiring, but the fact that i have let my pied/addiction get so severe makes me negative sometimes.. Any tips on dealing with negativity during your reboot and for my situation in general?..

    Thanks for sharing your story, motivates me deeply, over the last 2 years i have worked upon myself (good job/friendships etc) so feel in the right place to end this chapter. All i want is to keep progressing in my career and eventually once i heal from pied find a partner and hopefully marry and start a family..
     
  13. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    Drummer dude - here's my thought process. It worked for me. It may or may not work for you. But here's how I thought.

    Either way, whether I was relapsing to porn or rebooting, I was miserable. so if I was going to be miserable, I might as well be miserable WHILE rebooting.

    As long as I was rebooting, I held that glimmer of hope that tomorrow would be a better day. That I was one day closer to recovery.

    You need to find some sort of motivation to keep you going. Otherwise when you're feeling down in the dumps, you won't be able to stay strong.

    This is one of the toughest battles you'll ever face. There's a reason most can't escape the grips of hardcore porn.
     
  14. 40New30

    40New30 Keep going

    One of my favorite reboot stories, keeps me motivated to keep going when I'm not feeling great.

    I love the part about feeling like you have to go out and be around people or call someone up...I am getting that back too. I know that the person I am is that person, not the person who wants to hide away from life.

    I'm struggling with short bouts of anxiety this week, which I never really got before I started rebooting. I know it will pass.
     
  15. drummerdude

    drummerdude New Member

    Thank you for the advice RA!

    The desire to be happy, healthy, normal, positive and get married, with the fact that it will only happen if I reboot and heal my mind from pied/addiction is enough motivation for me ..

    Just that I have let my pied get so bad and severe in comparison to others, it makes me sad sometimes .. But as you said it's better to be sad rebooting rather than sad relapsing.. No half steps this time :) .. Please do keep updating us and dropping in now and then.. Cheers !
     
  16. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    I'm STILL having moments where I'm feeling like crap. But it might last a day. Or two or three. Followed by 3 or 4 days of awesome.

    My highs keep getting higher. The lows still come. The ebbs and flows of life too I suppose.

    Keep it up 40 New 30. I check your journal every day. There's always nuggets and great perspective on it.

    Drummer dude - stay positive. There's only one way out. And that's rebooting and rewiring to real women!
     
  17. Fleischman

    Fleischman New Member

    That's awesome man. I really look up to you. Your story is so encouraging.
    All the people I told about nofap (not many) besides my mom and my best friend think I'm crazy. Especially when I tell them I've no libido at 185 days. Honestly many times I doubt myself. But I'm going to keep going. It seems the only way forward. I've had some very good days lately where I showed some aspects of my personality that were long gone. This shows that I'm doing something right.

    I'm powering through with only faith right now. If I make it Iike you I will also dedicate some of my time to share my experience and help others like you do.
     
  18. Londoner

    Londoner Well-Known Member

    This is awesome, I hope to emulate your success one day.
     
  19. RebornAgain

    RebornAgain Beating my addiction one day at a time.. Staff Member

    Fleischman - that was the only sign I was getting better. Gradually I'd be more open in a group of people. I'd find myself enjoying conversation and asking questions.

    And not bullshit questions. Questions I was genuinely curious about.

    I found myself desiring women and wanting to find out about them as human beings. Not just someone I'd have sex with. I've never experienced the level of closeness with another human being the way I feel about my current fiance.

    I've spent my entire life running from true emotions and hiding who I really was. This is one of the first times in my life I've opened up. Became vulnerable. And it's resulted in the greatest deepest relationship I've ever been in.
     
  20. Fucking awesome man! Your proof for me! My theory is correct! Just as you described.. it's not FORCING these changes in your life. It's about staying away from P and M, then letting nature take it's course. What you described is exactly how I've always imagined this would work..


    Staying clean from P and M, then over time your nature changes. Actions like exercise, reading, chores, etc etc... happen automatically because your brain is working again.



    And THE GIRLS!!! Dude you tell me... Going from virgin to multiple girls in 1 year... your old self would NEVER have been able to devise the means employed correct? Just happened naturally?
     

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