2 weeks no porn and already feeling tension

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Iss100, Jan 14, 2021.

  1. Iss100

    Iss100 New Member

    I completely stopped porn since Jan 1st (14 days) and masturbation since Jan 10th (4 days), I am feeling the build up of some serious sexual tension inside me. I can’t stop thinking about having sex with my wife and having sexual fantasies about having sex with her.
    Is this normal?
    Unfortunately we are currently separated (due to my pornography habit), we are on good terms but not at the point where I can’t ask her for sex.
    Before separation (and me under the influence of full blown porn sex addiction) I would very rarely have desire for sex. When we did have sex we would often have a number of issues such as me going soft during intercourse, not having any sensitivity and not being able to finish inside her (had to pull out and finish with masturbation). I never connected those issues with porn use, at some point I even thought that I am impotent?
    Is releasing tension at least once per week okay or I should practise complete abstinence.
     
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  2. BoughtWithBlood

    BoughtWithBlood Well-Known Member

    Thanks for sharing your story. Having sexual desire for your wife is a good sign. Do you think you can speak with her about the changes you are noticing?

    I wouldn’t go for masturbation if I were you. That is probably linked to pornography in your brain.. neurons that fire together, wire together. You’re better off investing in saving your marriage now that the desire for your wife is increasing.

    In any way, our body’s can feel like we need a release, but that tension will pass. We don’t really need one, we’re just used to having one. Our body will adjust to our habits.

    Best of luck to you!
     
  3. Iss100

    Iss100 New Member

    I am afraid to speak with her because she is still bitter and has not forgiven me. I don’t think that we are ready to have sex yet.

    It is becoming increasingly hard to concentrate lately, sexual desire is overwhelming
     
    Last edited: Jan 14, 2021
  4. breath

    breath Member

    it sounds like you can fix this with her.. bring her flowers or something everyday. Sweet nothings it took me 30 years of marriage to fully embrace that... we were living estranged going for years without sex,resenting each other, if you are still showing care for each other just build on that - it'll work for sure... now I have sex regularly with my wife only a couple of time per month but still, love it....and sexy hugs in the mornings in the kitchen.. i get a bit hard when i hug her.. i'm pushing 60 so its all good.. generic tadalafil online 2 hours before helps. in my case but you are younger than i. it was a recreational drug/fun booster for me
     

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