Discussion in 'Ages -19' started by GreenSwampMan, Feb 25, 2019.
What a great and courageous step to go to the urologist and even tell him about the pied. Ridiculous that he doesnt even consider this as a cause.
Posting regularly and reading the posts of fellow rebooters is indeed great way to keep remembering yourself of the priority this has in your life and can really get you through difficult times.
Looking forward to your updates!
Relapsed again. Starting over.
The thing I have learned after being on this board for 7 years and a bazillion relapses, is that as long as you stay kind, forgiving and loving to yourself and dare to analyze your relapses and stick to this board (or otherwise support), you are not starting over after a relapse. ..... ok, too long sentence...sorry . Instead you learn from it and you continue your way towards healthy life and emotional management.
My first years here were helping me a lot, but also frustrating in some way cause I kept falling back. But after a while I started looking back and saw how my stretches became longer, things were getting easier and especially life quality improved.
Keep on going. The first week is most difficult . . .
Do you have new habits to counteract your habit of masturbating? Also, ditch away every possible outlet(smartphone, internet connection) that makes you masturbate, atleast for the first 90 days. It helps a lot. Sacrificing these things now is really worth it.
I pretty much agree with what Manly Man says - I've found that limiting the use of smartphones and the internet has helped a lot on dealing with no PMO in life - in fact, it's probably been one of the main factors in how you can deal with no PMO as a whole because it prevents you from falling into the same dopamine trap that social media, the internet, PMO, video-games, and smartphones end up trapping you in. It doesn't mean that you can't regulate some of those things (obviously not the porn because that will always be soul-leeching) but I've found it far easier to deal with no PMO by preventing a loss of control to the previously mentioned than without having control of those things.
How are you? Did you manage to get some clean days going again? The first week is really the hardest. After that it is way more manageable, although we all have to learn to get more comfortable with emotional discomfort, i.e. loose the need to try to change our emotional state by watching porn.
I am doing OK, thank you for asking. Today makes the third day of my streak. I relapsed on Sunday morning because I started getting some rather intense cravings. I did it because I had to finish writing a course paper and had to prepare for an exam on Monday and I wouldn’t be able to concentrate properly if I had to resist the urge. I notice that there is a pattern with school and relapsing. I often relapse when I’m stressed. However, the good thing is that the academic year is over at the university and I only have to finish the remaining two course papers so things should be less stressful for me now.
I agree with you that the first week is the hardest. I tend to relapse the most in the first couple of days of a streak because in this case I just tell myself “oh, it’s just a couple of days” but those single days start adding up and start turning into weeks. But it’s not all bad: as I’ve said now that I’m on my third day the urge is less than it was. However, my dreams tend to be about porn and fantasizing is also an issue. Hopefully summer will be better.
Good that you are aware that stress triggers you. My experience is that porn can give a temporary instant relieve from stress, but will make me feel more stressed or drained from energy the next day. Besides most guys, including me, report to have more energy and have a sharper memory and mind during abstinence. That would maybe help you to be more confident and thus relieve stress more long-term.
Anyway, each streak has a day 3 in it. Keep going and enjoy the ride
Keep posting, keep going. It is a marathon, not a sprint!
Still flatlining but got semi-hard at some points during the day. I also had a dream about relapsing by going on a porn site and watching videos last night. It was a rather vivid dream too. I am glad it was just a dream, though.
Hope you're doing well GSM!
Hope you’re doing well brother
Good day everyone!
I have been continuing my attempts to abstain from PMO but I'm sorry to say that I did not have much success with it in June. However, I started another streak on July 6th and I'm on day 5 of this streak. However, it is not easy. At all. Right now I'm feeling very strong urges but I hope that they will pass soon.
Hopefully, I'll manage to achieve a 30 days streak before my birthday in August!
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