100 days! How I did it after trying for 4 years, and the amazing benefits.

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Neonic9, Mar 11, 2017.

  1. Neonic9

    Neonic9 New Member

    I've finally succeeded at overcoming this major issue in my life. 7 years of destruction are finished.

    For 4 years I tried to reach 90 days.
    I have have reached day 21, 30, 40, etc., many times. In this streak I reached day 70 for the first time and started to experience a GREAT change in my brain and body and life. I'd never experienced this before in all my time on NoFap. The real change that we all seek on NoFap actually begun.

    There are so many benefits to list but here's some:
    1. Completely happier.
    2. Emotions more powerful, intense feelings, including sadness.
    2. Intellect is sharper, I'm wittier, better memory. Vivid flashbacks of my life have been coming - I'd forgotten so much and didn't even know.
    3. Not afraid to look at people and talk to people.
    4. Have energy to do things. I want to get up in the morning. I'm excited for tomorrow. Am capable of anything. Not worrying so much about things, like what I'm going to do if this or that happens, because now I'm more able to handle situations.
    5. Music is way better. Enjoying video games way more. Food tastes way better. Movies are more enjoyable.
    6. Physical appearance vastly bettered. Eyes brighter and larger and more colorful. Skin is a healthy color now. Acne all gone (I've had it since 13 and only now after this streak has it gone). Body strengthened and looks fuller, muscular, better proportioned.
    7. Physically fitter and stronger. I can zip around and do things so fast, moving at the speed of light one second and then completely slow down the next without becoming breathless... I'm fit like how I was as a child.
    8. Can focus on things with my eyes. Also I can see more details before me, like I'm walking down the street and see every detail, the reflection of a building in a window whilst looking at a person walking in front of me.
    9. I laugh much more and am enjoying humor more.

    The change that I started experiencing was none other than my life returning after being hidden for 7 years (nearly 8 years). To think, I was dead for all those years and didn't even know it!

    If you have only ever gotten around 30 days, or 50, or even 60, I don't think you've yet experienced the true change that takes place after a long time of celibacy (BTW this is 100 days hard mode).

    HOW I SUCCEEDED: The reason I succeeded this time after failing for the last 4 years is by using a single technique that I first started using at the beginning of this streak, which I will share now: Flee from all temptations! Don't try to fight temptations, run away from all of them! This means:
    Stop looking at women's bodies when you're walking down the street, focus on their faces.
    Stop fantasizing about sex, or sexual situations.
    Stop thinking about sex and sexuality completely.
    Stop watching sexually charged music videos.
    Stop watching sex scenes.
    Stop looking at lingerie ads.
    Flee from sexual situations.
    Flee from sexual triggers.
    Avoid arousal.

    This technique is what has been always employed by men since ancient times, and it is still what's taught by people today. For example, here's two guys who are teaching it as well: http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/...ousal-method-celibacy-of-body-and-mind.14525/
    Someone else has discovered this technique: "I have been having my best success yet and feel the most balanced by adopting a mindset of no sexual arousal at all. Peeking delays recovery. Thinking about sex delays recovery. I feel that now. I am in a place where I push any sexual thought out of my mind instantly. Its working well."

    This is Christian theologians promoting the exact same technique. I think it's very enlightening, so even if you don't believe in Christianity, it's still good to read:
    "Man should escape from it; he should not stay to reason about it; to debate the matter; or even to contend with his propensities, and to try the strength of his virtue. There are some sins which a man can resist; some about which he can reason without danger of pollution. But this is a sin where a man is safe only when he flies; free from pollution only when he refuses to entertain a thought of it; secure when he seeks a victory by flight, and a conquest by retreat. Let a man turn away from it without reflection on it and he is safe. Let him think, and reason, and he may be ruined."
    "There is no way of avoiding the pollution but in the manner prescribed by Paul; there is no man safe who will not follow his direction. How many a young man would be saved from poverty, want, disease, curses, tears, and hell, could these two words be made to blaze before him like the writing before the astonished eyes of Belshazzar Daniel 5, and could they terrify him from even the momentary contemplation of the crime." "The only safety in such temptations is flight"
    "“Flee fornication”—other sins may be combated; this must be fled, as by Joseph in Potiphar’s house." "Flee fornication. In the battle against sensual sins, there is no victory except in absolute flight"
    "The apostle cometh to a new argument, by which he presseth them to flee the sin of uncleanness. It is observed by some, that this sin is peculiarly to be resisted, not so much by resisting it, and pondering arguments against it, as by flying from it, avoiding all occasions of it, and not suffering our thoughts to feed upon it"

    If you don't like reading Christian stuff, skip this paragraph.
    Apart from the technique I talked about above, the Lord has helped me get this far, His grace and mercy has allowed me to recover, and He has blessed me greatly in giving me the regained and restored life. I'm not good at prayer at all (I'm trying to get better, though), but I think praying for His help has helped me, too.

    You have to understand that your brain has been changed by PMO, and that your brain needs to undergo another change to return to it's normal state. By not going down the same old neuropathways by looking at sexual pictures and thinking sexual thoughts, you start to make these neuropathways starve. You stop using them and they go out of business.

    I think that all the motivational posts, the reasons people give themselves to stop PMO, the countless posts arguing why PMO is bad, will never be enough to make someone stop PMO. I think that the addiction is so strong that when one is being tempted and doesn't get away from it, that they will give in no matter what motivational quote is told them. Now I'm not saying that all the motivational stuff is not helpful, just that the only thing that worked for me was the technique I explained above.

    If you've resolved many times to finally stop PMO and are still falling back, you are doing something wrong. I experienced the same thing, and it was ONLY when I changed tactics and employed the "flee fornication" technique that I stopped PMO.

    Here's some advice. Stop thinking that you will change your bad habits "one day", that you will start changing your life for the better "one day". You need to do it now. You CAN do it now. Take the first step now.

    If you've failed many times trying to succeed, and it's even been many years of failure, don't lose hope. Look at me. I was just like you and I overcame this.

    If you've heard that hard mode is excessive, or that doing NoFap doesn't really help, don't believe it. Semen retention is so essential to a man's life. Not only that, but a life filled with pornography and sexual stimulation, sexual thinking, fantasizing, oogling, etc. actually changes one's brain and brings down our quality of life substantially. I think this may be a major reason why many men today wonder why they were so happy and bright as children, but after they hit puberty they weren't anymore.

    By the way, the changes haven't stopped coming. More and more my strength and life
    is increasing, and it seems it will never end. Maybe after 7 years I will come full circle and be completely returned to normal? Or maybe it will happen sooner than that? I don't really know how this works in detail. And sorry for this post being so long. I've tried my best to edit it.
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  2. Anewlife

    Anewlife Member

    thank you for this post .. i wish i was as strong as you to not look at real women been trying for more than 2 years but didnt sucseed yet.

    do you think you can have regular sex while on no arousal? i can get good erections for it but experience depression and lethargy after regular O's

    thank you
  3. shattered

    shattered Member

    Great post, wish this person would have stuck around the forum.
  4. auzzie_mikey

    auzzie_mikey Active Member

    I wish too as well.... @shattered I can tell you from experience, that once a person gets recovered mentally and has no more symptoms, the person seems to forget about PMO and the pain that was associated with it, because life becomes much more enjoyable. This is exactly what happened with me. In July 2015 I completely recovered and felt amazing, so I didn't go on these forums from 2015 up until March 2018, cause thats when withdrawals hit me again. In my case, the error was my life was so good, mentally clear, everything amazing, that I forgot how bad PMO was for me, so I kept PMOing, hence why I had PMO withdrawals from Feb - May 2018, now I'm at 102 days and feel absolutely amazing. All the points he has listed, I am feeling. Superpowers are amazing. But this time, the difference is, I'm never going to underestimate PMO, because the 3 months I suffered in 2018 of withdrawals were hell on earth for me man. I will not surrender to this devil ever AGAIN>
  5. Mickeymouse

    Mickeymouse Member

    You guys believe on the fact that excessive PMO causes hairfall and aged look?
  6. Gilgamesh

    Gilgamesh Seize the day

    What a valuable post! Thanks for bringing it up again, guys.

    @auzzie_mikey : do you agree with the fleeing from all temptations? How is it to deal with that after 100 days? Does it get easier?
  7. Joshua Shea

    Joshua Shea Active Member

    I applaud you for going as long as you have. If you have a system that is working for you, I think you should share it with others, but I wonder about the long-term effectiveness, or hit to the healthy parts of your life, of fleeing from everything.
    I have a slightly different take, but won't post it all here as a counterargument. If you'd like to read it, I have it up on my site: https://recoveringpornaddict.com/2018/03/19/facing-triggers-makes-you-stronger/
  8. auzzie_mikey

    auzzie_mikey Active Member

    Gilgamesh, it doesn't get any easier. I avoid looking at chicks and don't even make eye contact with them. They can sense superpowers inside me and always try to touch my legs or seduce me on the train, it actually frustrates and aggravates me, I cant explain how much it affects me.

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