★ The Under 20 Rewiring League ★

Discussion in 'Ages -19' started by Ryan94, Jan 27, 2014.

  1. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    As much as i would both like to award you both with an approach, neither was an approach. Neither situation really 'challenged' you (though talking to a girl on the internet/over the phone isn't too easy). They were both almost approaches, but not enough. I got to be strict here unfortunately.

    As you can see, there's a lot of grey areas. Since interacting with women is such a complicated topic with many variables, there's no way i can encompass all possibilities.

    Good luck on your dates, both daguilara and GetTheFapsOut! You'll do just fine.
     
  2. daguilara

    daguilara Age: 20 - I will definitely beat this addiction!!

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    I think this count because soon or later I am going to meet her face to face because she studies in the same university I do, I am gonna have to be able to keep a conversation with her, THERE is the challenge.

    The first time I saw her she was in a picnic table and I told to myself "She is cute", and that was all I continued with my things; and I have seen her just a few times, so facebook was a good chance to approach her.

    When I was about to write her I really had my doubts like "what am I going to say?", "What if got out of ideas to talk about?" or "What if she doesnt likes me?".

    But I was with a friend and told me "You are a pussy you wont talk to her", and that was my motivation to shut his mouth.

    So it felt like a challenge, but not a big one. I just think that it is a progress.
     
  3. GetTheFapsOut

    GetTheFapsOut New Member

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Sure I agree it wasn´t really an approach, more of a lucky coincidence :p.
    Anyways, did the number and the date count or do they need to come from approaches?

    The date was okay btw, ended up with her kissing me but I decided to tell her I didn´t want a relationship with her since i didn´t feel the chemistry was right. Also she was a "good girl" so it didn´t feel right to try to push for sex if I wasn´t willing to commit afterwards.

    I´m feeling really good though, it feels like the nofap is making girls more attracted to me :) . It´s been a 5th of a year without fapping now, For you which have had problems with ED ( I´ve had some) just lying in a bed next to a girl gave me like 80% erection :p. Which feels really promising. Keep it up brahs, I see light at the end of the tunnel!
     
  4. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    This is great news! You really ought to be proud of yourself- 75 days is incredible

    You're right. However, you're ultimately the judge on if it was an approach or not. I'm just trying to be a guide to stop others looking for 'an easy way out', like asking out girls on Tinder/Facebook/online dating and then calling themselves an approach genius.
     
  5. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    If you sincerely feel it was an approach, then you can add it as an approach. I can only guess your situation by the information you provided so you're always the best judge.
    I'm only trying to stop others from taking easy ways out from a hard challenge. Talking to girls online is a different skill entirely- i'm not very good at it myself. Just don't get too comfortable with it.

    Nonetheless, good luck with your date! I wish you every success.
     
  6. 1jonesma

    1jonesma New Member

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Daguilara and get the faps out, yeah probably not straight out approaches but still good efforts.

    Had a lecture a few weeks ago, sat next to a girl and went through the forced interaction by the lecturer. Anyway saw her on Tuesday working in a store near my work. Approached her and had a good conversation ending it with "I might swing by then" and her replying "Yeah do it". Trying not to over analyse it, and just simply take that as the go ahead.
     
  7. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Ryan's Approach Spreadsheet - March

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    21 approaches! Really proud of myself there. The best part is that the girl who's number I received in the middle of the month turned out to be really interesting and friendly. She's certainly pretty, but i'm just enjoying being with her as a friend for now. We might meet up for a coffee next week.
     
  8. daguilara

    daguilara Age: 20 - I will definitely beat this addiction!!

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Great job Ryan you seem to be progressing!!! :D

    And thank you for this approaching thread, it has been very good for me and I am sure that for most of the guys in here.

    In my case I have already met the girl I was talking to facebook twice and we still chating almost every day.
    She is cute and I think she is interested in me, because she is the one that breaks eye contact and plays with her hair.

    Really, thank you again, and keep progressing.

    I have a question for you: Stopping porn has given you more confidence to talk to girls?

    The other day I was on the bus and I saw a girl´s tits (without bad intention, just and instinct) and then her eyes and she liked that, and smiled me.

    There has been a long while since I give smiles back to girls that give me one. I enjoy to do that again.

    I really think this threat has been good for me and I feel like porn is stupid, I really want live my life and see how it goes with this girl.

    I dont wanna watch porn again in my life.

    YHWH bless you
     
  9. GetTheFapsOut

    GetTheFapsOut New Member

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Hello , its been a while since last I guess I´ve been busy. I´ve been on one date during march, didn´t feel right so I decided to not go for a second one. I´ve kind of started liking one of my female friends and I feel like she might be interested aswell. So I´m planning on taking the initiativ and just see how she reacts.

    Additionally: after 3 months of nofap I feel like Im getting more attention and appreciation from girls. When I think about it I feel like I´m more comfortable talking to them aswell and I feel like I´ve developed as a person during the past few months.

    Nice work during March Ryan
     
  10. NoTCH4NC3

    NoTCH4NC3 Guest

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    I am thinking i should join in on this. I am currently 19 in college. My question is how have you guys been doing with this. Are you taking it serious? Trying to approach girls on the daily. How do you guys feel this is going for you? Can you just give me your general thoughts and observations of this experiment of trying to approach more people.

    Thank you
    -Jon
     
  11. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Most people aren't taking this seriously, but this was and is primarily a place for support and somewhere write your questions, theories and reports concerning rewiring and interacting with others.

    The method of this thread is slightly too complicated, so I'm working on creating an app to replace the current method of data collection, to make everything as simple as possible. In the meantime, you're totally welcome to join and report your interaction experiences here. Myself and the other thread members will be glad to help you.
     
  12. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Hey Daguilara! Thanks for the question. I seemed to have missed it the last time I read it, so my apologies.

    It's weird. Stopping porn didn't necessarily give me extra confidence. But it gave me a lot of apathy, and a don't-care-what-happens attitude. In short, talking to girls wasn't scary at all! I saw it as less as a chore, and more as an exciting challenge!

    Nowadays after my relapse, it's less easy. I'm not sure why, but that's just the way it is.
     
  13. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Go for it! You never know unless you try. Good luck!
     
  14. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Just writing here to inform everyone that the Resource section has been through a major update.
     
  15. daguilara

    daguilara Age: 20 - I will definitely beat this addiction!!

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Hey Ryan is good to read of you and what a good streak you did after so much relapses.

    Our progress is going very similar.

    I saw your answer on my topic "My family doesnt support me"

    Thanks, by the way what is the Resource section??

    YHWH bless you
     
  16. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Check the bottom of the title post:

    http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=17743.msg308019#msg308019

    YHWH bless you too :)
     
  17. nomorefapalexander

    nomorefapalexander New Member

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Hey, man. Thanks for taking the time to organize the resource section. How are you getting on with approaching girls? I've been staying home for easter in the past 3 weeks, and I am noticing I am starting to feel worse when I am deprived of socializing with girls.
     
  18. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Same here. I've been hard at work with exams and relapsing, so i've lost the supposed 'superpowers' and i'm just back to my old self.

    In this, you just got to keep practising. You never stay in stasis, you either improve, or worsen.

    Good luck! As in anything, after the first few barriers, it gets much easier.
     
  19. max215

    max215 New Member

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Sign me UP!

    I'm 16, in Canada, no clue what that means about sex but ya...haha

    I would love to try this challenge, and I hope your able to add me in. I'll download all the stuff. Just let me know if you need anything else.

    Stay strong bros,

    Max
     
  20. Ryan94

    Ryan94 Began my life again on 21/03/2014 - Nowruz

    Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★

    Hey Max, great to have you! I'll sign you up now. Good luck!
     

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