The Under 20 Rewiring League LAST UPDATE: 14/05/2014 The Resources section is continuously being updated. Check the Resources section below frequently for new relevant websites, articles and threads to help you with your recovery. CLICK HERE TO LOG IN OR VIEW RESULTS Participants: Currently: 1 Maximum: 10 Name: Sir Draganos What Is Rewiring? Rewiring is having intimate contact with a real woman to trigger a natural arousal response. It doesn't necessarily mean sex, but having sex is the most effective way of rewiring. Hugging, kissing, touching, holding hands with a woman are all methods of rewiring. Alternatively: How To Participate In The Rewiring League: 1. Check if there's any available spaces. The maximum allowed in each league is 10 people. 2. If there are any spaces available in your age group, post on this thread stating your interest and I will add you to the league as soon as I can. 3. Once you are admitted to the league, you should log in each day and answer 5 questions. Your answers will determine your score, and hence success rate (and therefore the rank in the league). Your 5 Questions: Did you avoid watching porn today? The purpose of rewiring is to become receptive to real-life experiences and real-life women. Conditioning your brain to be aroused by porn goes against the goal of rewiring. Did you receive at least 8 hours of sleep last night? A healthy amount sleep is integral for mental and physical well-being, and is very likely to speed up the rewiring process. As our brains are in the process of changing to return to a more natural state, a longer amount of sleep than usual would be ideal. However, 8 hours as a minimum would be beneficial enough. Did you interact with a beautiful woman today for more than 2 minutes? All experiences of interacting with women in the offline world contributes and helps towards the rewiring process, as long as you feel attraction to them. Did you avoid fantasising about intimacy today? Like abstaining from porn, abstaining from fantasy further conditions your mind to tend towards being attracted to women in the real-life world, rather than virtual or imaginary women. Did you spend at least 30 minutes doing a healthy activity today? Most members of this forum right now (after countless relapses) will probably realise that abstinence is not enough. Your brain still craves dopamine, and if you don't fill the gap left from abandoning porn with a healthy hobby, you will turn to unhealthy habits which bring about a dopamine high, or back to porn itself. PLEASE NOTE: It doesn't matter if you enter later than everyone else. This will not affect your success rate. Lastly, this thread is here for group support and sharing advice, on the following topics: Rewiring: 1. Sharing your experiences on the rewiring process. 2. Requesting help on any aspect of the rewiring process. 3. Requesting and sharing your sexual experiences (especially from Karezza) to help with rewiring. Rebooting: 1. Sharing your experiences during your reboot. 2. Requesting help on any aspect of rebooting. 3. Requesting and sharing reboot advice to members of this group. Lifestyle improvement: 1. Sharing advice on improving one's lifestyle. 2. Requesting advice on how to solve a lifestyle issue. Miscellaneous: 1. Feedback about this thread. Any constructive criticism and suggestions for improvement are more than welcome. 2. Suggesting new websites, threads or topics to add to the resources section. 3. Anything else! Please minimise use of explicit or suggestive sexual language when writing your posts. Thank you. Prizes: At the end of the year, the appropriate userbar will be sent to the members who achieve a high success rate. Gold Award: 70% success rate or above Silver Award: 60% success rate or above Bronze Award: 50% success rate or above Don't let failure keep you down Useful Resources: YBR Threads on Rewiring: Why rewiring is more important than rebooting The Key To Rebooting and Rewiring! Is rewiring necessary for recovery? Rewiring by visiting a prostitute in Amsterdam? Red_Raja's rewiring experience How much should you rewire? Success story by prioritising rewiring 1 Success story by prioritising rewiring 2 Success story by prioritising rewiring 3 Success story by prioritising rewiring 4 Success story by prioritising rewiring 5 Success story by prioritising rewiring 6 Success story by prioritising rewiring 7 Success story by prioritising rewiring 8 A Gary Wilson post concerning rewiring YBOP Articles on Rewiring: My rewiring strategy - User story Unwiring & Rewiring Your Brain: Sensitization and Hypofrontality Other Techniques for Rewiring Schwartz technique for rewiring OCD Do I have to have sex in order to rewire? Karezza - An Ideal Sexual Technique for Rewiring: www.reuniting.info - all about Karezza Cupid's Poisoned Arrow Karezza subreddit Lovers' Ultimate Sex Hack: Karezza Another Way to Make Love Karezza vs. Edging Karezza poll Karezza question Karezza experiment Success story from rewiring with Karezza 1 Success story from rewiring with Karezza 2 Success story from rewiring with Karezza 3 Success story from rewiring with Karezza 4 Success story from rewiring with Karezza 5 YBR Recovery Advice: 9 Tips To 90 Supersonic's 5 tips to Success How I went 90 days without masturbating (on hard mode) without breaking a sweat How I Went 100 Days Without Orgasm - My Blueprint for Success Laurynas' Recipe for Success Youngoldies Starter Kit for Rebooters PuritanWorkEthic's guide to recovery Freedomfromcybersex's tips for recovery Helpful Quotes, Food for the Journey The Top 3 Fatal Mistakes Rebooters Make YBOP and Reuniting Recovery Advice: The Big List of Tips & Tricks Drawbacks of Masturbation Section One: You Evolved to be Hooked on Porn Why Shouldn’t Johnny Watch Porn If He Likes? Porn, Novelty, and the Coolidge effect Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem Has Evolution Trained Our Brains to Gorge on Food and Sex? Porn, Novelty, and the Coolidge effect The Great Porn Experiment What If She Were Always in the Mood? When the Internet Is Better Than People Section Two: What's Driving Your Addiction? Intoxicating Behaviors: 300 Vaginas = A Lot of Dopamine Porn Then and Now: Welcome to Brain Training Why Do I Find Porn More Exciting Than A Partner? Ominous News for Porn Users: Internet Addiction Atrophies Brains Recent Internet Addiction Studies Include Porn Are You Hooked on Porn? Ask ASAM Porn On The Brain Protect Your Appetite for Pleasure What Porn Users Taught Me Kids and Porn: It Ain’t Your Father’s ‘Playboy’ Section Three: The Effects of Porn on the User Dr. Oz Show Investigates Porn-Induced ED Porn Recovery and The Mysterious Flatline Are Porn Tube Sites Causing Erectile Dysfunction? Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem Porn Problems: Here Come the Women Youthful ED: More to the Story? Quitting porn? Prepare for more vibrant emotions Young Porn Users Need Longer To Recover Their Mojo Was the Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating Too Much? Porn, Masturbation and Mojo: A Neuroscience Perspective Porn and Perception: Is Your Limbic Brain Distorting Your Vision? Can You Trust Your Johnson? “How I Recovered from Porn-related Erectile Dysfunction” ‘Straight Men, Gay Porn’ and Other Brain Map Mysteries Losing at Porn Roulette Bill Gates and Better Condoms: Error 404? As Porn Goes Up, Performance Goes Down? Wiring Sexual Tastes to Hairless Genitals...Oops! Exposure Therapy for HOCD? No Porn, Better Working Memory? Section Four: The Porn Debate Toss Your Textbooks: Docs Redefine Sexual Behavior Addictions The Other Porn Experiment Is there evidence supporting the existence of pornography addiction? Porn and DSM-5: Are Sexual Politics At Play? The Wages of Sexual-Addiction Politics Politics, Porn and Addiction Neuroscience Porn, Pseudoscience and ΔFosB Exclusion of Internet Porn Addiction Makes No Biological Sense Porn Addiction is Not Sex Addiction--And Why It Matters DSM-5 Attempts to Sweep Porn Addiction Under the Rug Measuring Porn's Effects: What About the Users? Porn Study: Does Viewing Explain Doing—Or Not? The End of The Porn Debate? How can we bring the problem of porn addiction into the mainstream? Rethinking Ogas and Gaddam's 'A Billion Wicked Thoughts' 'A Billion Wicked Thoughts' Is Only A Snapshot: Post-Porn Culture Teach Porn In Schools? Drumroll: An Academic Journal For Porn Fans Pornography Consumption Effect Scale: Useful or Not? Study: Porn Users Report Narrower Emotional Range Section Five: Relationships and Porn Guys Who Gave Up Porn: On Sex and Romance Porn, Novelty and Dissatisfaction Why Is Romeo Ignoring Juliet? Boyfriend Quitting Porn? 5 Tips Dating A Heavy Porn User? Pair Bonding 101: Beware Novelty-As-Aphrodisiac Are Pair Bonders More Vulnerable to Addiction? Section Six: Masturbation & Ejaculation Articles Rethinking the Wonders of Adult Masturbation Men: Does Frequent Ejaculation Cause A Hangover? Ejaculation: How Often for Good Health? Masturbation, Fantasy and Captivity WEIRD Masturbation Habits The Right Masturbation Advice Are You Exiting the Gene Pool Due to Low Sperm Count or ED? Vibrators and Other Pleasures: When Moderation Fails Woman, Vibrators, and Shaky Sex Research Section Seven: Sexuality and the Brain Are Sexual Tastes Immutable? First Sex: Just The Science Please Sexual Fantasy: The More You Scratch the More You Itch Do You Need a Chaser After Sex? Women: Does Orgasm Give You A Hangover? Supersize Orgasms? Sex and Morality: A Debate Between Competing Neurons New Finding Calls Into Question Assumptions About Sexuality Section Eight: Intimate Relationships and the Brain Human Brains Are Built to Fall in Love Committed Relationship: You’re Wired For It Guys: Where Do You Fall on the Monogamy Spectrum? How to Talk to Cupid The Lazy Way to Stay in Love Lovers' Ultimate Sex Hack: Karezza Staying in Love Monkey-Style Calling All Skin-Hungry Cuddle Sluts Can’t She/He See I Need Sex? Another Way to Make Love Oxytocin, Fidelity and Sex PMO-Abstinence Benefits and Success Stories: 100 Benefits of Quitting PMO 150+ pages of success stories 40 Reasons to Stop Watching Porn and Masturbating List of benefits (Reddit) List of benefits (RSD nation) Archive of successful rebooting accounts Detailed 1-90 day report with charts Synopsis of entire reboot, with mood chart 90 day reports (Reddit) Quitting porn? Prepare for more vibrant emotions Guys Who Gave Up Porn: On Sex and Romance You know Nofap is working when... (Reddit) You know Nofap is working when... (YBR) Nofap mega motivator 43 things - Stop Masturbating Success Stories List of great men/women who benefited from seminal conservation Graphs representing a member's attempt to reboot Experiences with ED and recovery PIED Recovery Stories 1 PIED Recovery Stories 2 PIED Recovery Stories 3 PIED Recovery Stories 4 PIED Recovery Stories 5 PIED Recovery Stories 6 PIED Recovery Stories 7 PIED Recovery Stories 8 PMO-Abstinence Benefits and Success Stories (Under 20): 15 years old success story 17 years old success story 17 years old success story 18 years old success story 19 years old success story 19 years old success story 19 years old success story 19 years old success story 19 years old success story Websites Dedicated to Rebooting and/or Rewiring: YourBrainOnPorn - All about Rebooting, Rewiring and Recovery Reuniting.info - All about Rewiring, Karezza, and Intimacy Keine Macht Dem Porno (German) Forums Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: YourBrainRebalanced Reboot Nation Forum Reuniting Porn Addict Subforum Reddit - PornFree Subreddit Reddit - NoFap Subreddit (100,000 members) NoFap.org Chinese No PMO forum (90,000 members) Chinese No PMO forum (over 150,000 members) Online Recovery Programs: Inner Gold Online Treatment Course Feed the Right Wolf - Recovery guide The PMO-Free Challenge - A 30 day guide No Fap Academy Blogs Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: Former Porn Website The Reboot Blueprint The Sex God Project TeachMeToWalkEnlightened Life After Porn PornAddictionEnd My Brain Off Porn Building the New Just Had Enough Shuffling Monkey, Raging Stock Return to Existence The End Of Porn Recovery From Porn and Masturbation No Porn, No Masturbation, No Fantasy and No Orgasm Damnit, Penis Fuck You Dopamine Recovering Porn Guy NoFapSolideo Two Boys and Two Flaccid Cocks (Swedish) PornAddiction (Hungarian) Withdrawal from porn (Polish) Free Yourself (Polish) Diario di un Mangiatore di Cialis (Italian) Stoppmo (French) Forum Threads Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: Underdog's Absolute Must Read Threads (YBR) Porn Induced E.D. Explained (YBR) The Science Behind Porn Induced E.D. (YBR) When did your withdrawals disappear? (YBR) MedHelp - Too much porn/masturbation cause ED? (2,800 posts) MedHelp - 22 with porn induced erectile dyfunction? (450 posts) Cracked.com - The Great Internet Porn-Off, Cont. (6,800 post and growing) Bodybuilding.com - The NO FAP thread to end all no fap threads (8,800 posts) Bodybuilding.com - The NO FAP thread to end all no fap threads Version 2.0 (about 10,000 posts and growing) Bodybuilding.com - Official No fap Thread V4. Let get this started. v3 is gone. Bodybuilding.com - NO FAP thread to end ALL No Fap threads V5 (Now with FAQ’s and more!!) Bodybuilding.com - Official NoFap & NoPorn thread V5.5 Bodybuilding.com - *90 days NoFap/NoPorn - Official Thread* Bodybuilding.com - No Porn - Join in for the biggest change of your life! 43Things - How to stop masturbating to porn Reddit - Ask a guy who quit porn for 2 months now anything RedCafe.net: Manchester football - 90 day no PMO PEgym - Rebooting: (porn abstinence) (120 posts and growing) Postmasculine.com - The No-More-Porn-Thread (830 posts and growing) Insidehoops - No more fap for me (550 posts) RSDnation - My amazing story (100 posts) RSDnation - "Metamorphisis into a chick magnet" (200 posts) High Existence - No Porn, No Masturbation for 30 Days (460 posts) Kanye To The (forum) - Does NoFap actually help? BodyBuilding.com - Are you a porn addict? (a poll with comments) Elite Trader - Porn addiction and the trader NeoGAF - Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Testosterone Nation - Porn Addiction Thread Blizzhackers - NoFap Thread UltimateGuitar.com - The Great Porn Experiment OverClokersUK - ED induced through use of porn Team Liquid - The no porn thread PEgym - Advantages of quitting porn? Dharma Talk - Masturbation & Sexual/Porn Addiction (Budhhist forum) NikeTalk - NFN Candeo - Porn Makes Men Impotent GoodLookingLoser.com - No more fapping! Join me GoodLookingLoser.com - Given up masturbation and porn grasscity.com - Anyone else dealing with this "Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction" Bullshit? The Student Room UK - *No Fap 2013* SoSuave - No Fap Challenge Progress Phantasy Tours - dudes who quit the internet porn E46Fanatics - No Fap has changed my life.......serious. GTAforums - The No FAP thread to end all No FAP threads Reddit - Porn-induced ED monitoring thread People from China are also fighting this problem The Coli! - 90 Days: NO Porn or Fap Challenge Muscle & Strength - Does No Fap work?? HardWare.Fr - [Topic No FAP/No Pr0N] Faire un reboot du cerveau ? Sondage effets PMO (French) Flashback - I suffer from Porn Impotence (3700 posts) (Swedish) d2jsp - Talán Pár Ember értékeli Majd (480 posts) (Hungarian) Team Andro (German) - 90 days without porn & masturbation (2000 posts) FOK - The Great Porn-Off (Multiple threads - about 5,000 posts) (Dutch) /B/ - Ernst Chan - Pr0nsucht (German) erektion.de - To all young men with ED (German) Burek Forum - Are you addicted to pornography? (Serbian) jeuxvideo.com - The effects of porn (French) Forum.Hr - Fapstronaut Program (Croatian) 3D Supply - Der Thread zum Spermtakel (German) Freak.no (Norwegian) KasKus.co.id (Indonesian) LunaGang - Pornography, and masturbation addiction (Dutch) Articles Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: How And Why To Give Up Pornography How I Stopped Masturbating to Internet Porn and How it Changed My Life Built to Achieve - Finally reached 90 days of NoFap after two years of trying! BreaktheFear.com - My Porn Addiction — A 60-day Challenge of no Porn or Masturbation A Nerd Addicted to Porn Masturbation is not healthy for you, contrary to popular belief PORN: How giving it up has changed my life - "Naughty Nomad" Manosphere: Pornography How to go from Willy Wanker to Billy Badass in 1 Easy Step Videos Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: Why I stopped watching porn: Ran Gavrieli at TEDx Howcast - Can Porn Addiction be cured? Howcast - Why Porn is Addictive? TED Talks: The Great Porn Experiment Why I started NoFap & Why I'm Never going to Stop How to Avoid Relapse on Weekends The Secret Key to Success with NoFap: The Master Habit Low Energy with NoFap Porn RUINED my life How to Rewire Desire "I just messed up, did I undo all of my progress??" Three Tips for Dealing With Urges How to Meditate and Process Urges How to Stop Fantasizing How to Stop Pornography Addiction (The Science of Pornography Addiction) Interrupt the Pattern (No Porn Challenge) Albert An: No Fap Challenge: Porn Addiction Recovery Journal Loneliness triggers Porn Addiction (How to Get in a Relationship) No-Fap is Bullshit!? (Overcoming Porn Addiction, No fap challenge) Youtube Channels Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery:: Albert An BodyWisdomVideos Brian Johnson Clasikobastv Elliot Hulse GoldJacketLuke Imahealthyboy InnerGold Counselling Services Jasonhchoi Marnia Robinson NoFap Academy PornAddictionGone Psychetruth /PornAddictionHelp Sacred Sexuality Project The Dman Thenaturaltv The Reboot Nation Audio Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: Craving Crusher (mp3) Mental Impotence Healer Program Your Brain in the Cybersex Jungle Radio Show Help For Pornography & Sexual Addiction - InnerGold's Blog Shrink Rap Radio - #374 - Exploring The Impact of Internet Pornography on The Brain with Gary Wilson The New Man Podcast 139: Gary Wilson – Is Watching Porn Bad for You? Dating Skills Review - How Internet Porn Can Damage Your Inner Game and Sexuality with Gary Wilson Compass Of Pleasure - Why Some Things Feel So Good GnosticMedia - PC 190 - Gary Wilson on Pornography Addiction CBC Radio - Winnipeg Interviews Gary BLIS.FM - Pornography in Relationships "Talk About Sex" (interview on Santa Fe's KVSF) "Super Normal Porn" podcast Red Bar Host Mike David Interviews Gary Interview with Lindsay McKinnon Talk show (Red Bar Radio) about www.yourbrainonporn.com Interview with Chris Greene - Irish Radio "Latest in Paleo" (weekly podcast) segment on YBOP (starts at 36:10) and excerpts from video series (at 46:30) InnerGold's podcast (available via radio apps for iOS and Android) Shrink Rap Radio - #152 – Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction with Elisha Goldstein Shrink Rap Radio - #306 – The Now Effect with Elisha Goldstein PhD Men's self improvement podcast The NoFap Podcast Sex Transmutation: Converting sexual energy into productive activities Sex transmutation guide 1 Sex transmutation guide 2 Napoleon Hill - Think and Grow Rich (Sacred Texts ebook) Steve Pavlina - Sex Energy Decreasing Arousal: Signs of over-arousal and how to lower arousal levels Diaphragmatic breathing Yogic breath of fire Meditation: A concise introduction to meditation What are the Benefits of Meditation? 100 days of meditation report The "Meditation Gate" technique: no porn for 10 months and counting! Meditation for Beginners - Instructions Mindfulness Guided Meditation Free Audio Book about everything regarding meditation Binaural Beats - help induce a meditative state Meditation article Zen mind, beginners mind - by Shunryu Suzuki Alan Watts talks about Zen Buddhism John Daido Loori Roshi gives an introduction speech about Zazen Zen Master Taigen Shodo Harada Roshi, talks about Zazen. Cold Showers: Reasons to have cold showers Benefits of Cold Showers Cold shower pros, how do you shower? Cold Showers are awesome! The Extraordinary Benefits of Cold Showers Stoicism, Hormesis, and Cold Showers Bioenergetic Exercises: Breathing and Bioenergetics explanation If you relapse, do this, helps tremendously Sleep: Sleep - A new way? Polyphasic Society Sleep suggestions during the recovery process Is it possible to just need 3-4 hours of sleep a night? Buying a new mattress to sleep on helped my anxiety more than Nofap! Sleeping on the floor Socialising: Meetup.com Increasing Mental Resilience: Willpower - Discovering the Greatest Human Strength (PDF) The "Porn is NOT an Option" Mindset Techniques to retrain the brain Letting go of the past The difference 1% makes 30 Days of Discipline Never quit End Masturbation/Porn Addiction Subliminals How to change and ingrain a behaviour Tips to strengthen willpower by EFS White 6 ways to improve willpower Life Organisation: 16 Habits You Should Do Every Day Rescue Time Beeminder Overall Life Improvement: LoveandFreedomProject ArtofManliness Diet: Intermittent fasting Internet Addiction and Mental Health: A Remedy for Depression & Anxiety (audio) How is Facebook Addiction Affecting Our Minds? Some useful sites to help you fight internet addiction List of things we can do instead of browsing the Internet How do I cope with loneliness? An Existential View Of Loneliness Philosophy And Depression Internet Web Protection: Delayed Gratification app (Chrome) Leechblock app (Firefox) Self Control app (Mac) K9 Web Protection Qustudio Opendns
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Awesome idea! I’ve been trying to stop controlling everything, and just let the chips fall as they may. Therefore I wont be active in this challenge, as I’ll likely just put pressure on myself / the interaction if I do. I’m all for meeting women though. Again Awesome Idea!
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ I like the intention of this, we PMO addicts need to get off the computer and start talking to real girls but this is spreadsheet addiction! I do think we need to encourage each other to get out there more, but counting approaches is a little too far. This system also seems to favor multiple partners since each girl can only count as 1, so say I approach a girl and over a month we start dating and fucking regularly thats still 1 point. I do need some motivation to find someone though, I go to a smallish high school so options are pretty limited and most any decent girl is either taken or has really high standards here since most of our girls are disgusting. Its been almost a year since I hit on a girl, and that was the only girl I ever hit on. It turned out pretty well all things considered. I wrote a long reflective post about how I originally messed up my wiring in my journal, and writing it really did remind me how important breaking that connection is going to be.
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ The purpose of this thread is to encourage us to get out there and approach/date as many girls as possible. Nothing wrong with that. More experience with girls=more attractive to girls. And of course lots of opportunities to rewire if the dates turn out well And if you find a girlfriend, by all means stop. You'll have all the rewiring you need just from her. But right now, i think i need to date more girls before i get to that stage for experience alone.
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Great thread. I started a few weeks ago, but couldn't approach. I don't know why I am so scared. Even if it is something super awkward it is still a massive social experience.
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Ryan94's Approach Spreadsheet - January Didn't have much time or energy to focus on approaching due to University exams, assignments and everything else coming at me all at once. I will improve this by February. Approaches were all basically rejections due to my nervousness and inexperience of leading a conversation. Girls usually found a way to leave the awkward conversation mid-way, gave their number out of politeness or just generally didn't like me.
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Start approaching again this Month and post up your experiences on March 1st, and let's compare how we did. You seem to be a beginner in this like myself. What i suggest you do (what i did when i first started and began panicking when i saw a beautiful girl I wanted to approach) is first listen to some upbeat music beforehand that makes you happy or determined. Then just make small talk with random strangers ('terrible weather, eh?' or 'what's the time? - Are you local?' or anything that seems appropriate). Then you'll have much more momentum and confidence to approach a pretty girl when you see her. Trust me, it works! After a day of approaching, you don't even need to do that anymore, your confidence is already high enough to talk to girls, though you may still feel really nervous in doing so. I was born and raised in a small town with very limited interaction with anyone - especially girls. My type of dyslexia makes my ability to talk and think spontaneously really hard, but i'm doing fine right now - experience always prevails. Besides, your PMO counter is incredible. I have total faith that you'll do well eventually, though it may take time. By the way, how old are you? Have you ever had a girlfriend before?
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Hey, man. I've never had a girlfriend before. I think in the last few weeks I've noticed that I am coming out of my flatline. During the flatline it was a bit hard to respond to touch from girls. I am 19 now. In my whole teens, I avoided talking to girls and I always escaped with video games and porn. I had a bad social anxiety and low self esteem. As I quit pmo my confidence was definetely higher, and my life improved significantly in many areas. But I could make a lot more progress if I started rewiring as early as possible I think. The fear I have looks ridiculous to me now. I am studying in London and the streets are quite busy during the day. Just need to get that momentum going I guess. I also don't go out regularly as I am quite busy with college as well. I will make a spreadsheet and post it here. Good luck to you too.
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Hey, i'm 19 and just moved to London for my studies. How strange. At least the variables between our approach spreadsheets will be minimal. It's an even playing field now. Sorry i've taken a while to reply to your post. But the truth is, i've totally fallen hopelessly in love already with a girl i met. We've been on 2 dates already. I've held her hand and kissed her. Approaching and dating other girls is just out of the question. I can't do it. Amazing how the perfect girl comes into one's life in the time you least expect it! Though, knowing me, i'll probably mess up. So i'm not going to rule myself out completely here.
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Congratulations for finding a girl to rewire with. Good luck on your rebooting. This will be a big help. I haven't gone out in a while. My exam is tommorow, so I will go in the weekend to approach. I hope I will have to balls to do it.
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Very interesting and healthy challenge dude. I will start it right now. ;D A few days back I talked to some hot girls in a bar with a friend and that gave me some confidence to keep trying. I could even have a nice conversation, and I actually enjoyed it. It was one of the few experiences I have had of approaching to woman that I have never met before. I only have one question: Does it only count with beautiful girls or any kind?, I mean it requires more courage to talk to a hot girl than an average. Do you get the idea? What I am trying to say is that Does it has to feel like a challenge every time I am going to approach? PD: Sorry for my english, Im from Costa Rica. YHWH bless you
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Hey Daguilara, nice to have you up to the challenge. Your English is perfect It only counts with beautiful girls. Every guy talks to regular girls, and asking out a regular girl is not so sincere (meaning there's less of a challenge). But you may ask yourself, which girl counts as a beautiful girl? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all. Sometimes, there are girls you may feel attracted to, but are not so pretty. Let me put it this way. Before you approach a girl, ask yourself this: If you were stuck inside a closet with her, would you feel turned on, or would you feel aversive? If you would feel turned on, then she counts as a girl to add to your approach spreadsheet. If not, she's just a normal girl, and doesn't count. Hope that helps. See you at the end of the month
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Seems like a good challenge, I´ll join Question: If I´m at a party talking to a girl, does it count like an aproach? I mean when I´m not really looking for a number but rather sex or kissing or just a conversation.
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Sure, any instance where you've taken the initiative to talk to a pretty girl counts as an approach as long as there's a reason for it to take you closer to rewiring E.g. Talking to a pretty girl in the aim to receive her number, go out on a date with her, or even skip straight to sex = an approach Just asking a pretty girl what the time is *with no attempt to move things forward* = no approach. Small talk is no challenge, nor does it bring you closer to rewiring. Hope i made things clear. Welcome to the challenge GetTheFapsOut
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Update: As you can see from my constant relapsing for the past few days, it didn't turn out well with the girl i was dating. So i'm going to concentrate much harder on approaching girls this time round. The positives are that i know exactly what went wrong and how to improve for next time. It was a shame. I really liked her. But i know i wasn't ready. I still got a lot of learning to do... Just a bit of advice: Never, ever become more interested in a girl than she is to you. This is why it's so important to keep dating as much as you can before she asks you to commit to her. Knowing there are other options help you keep a cool head. 2nd Update: Added Prizes to the challenge. Hope this will give people a little bit of encouragement and motivation!
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Uhm I do think the reward thing is a good idea, I think it´s way to hard though. I mean let´s say you in fact go on a date with like 10% of the girls for the easiest reward (minimum of 250 aproaches). This will give you 25 dates in a year and if even if no1 leads to a second date, you´ll still have a date every 2 weeks. And for the mastery award you´ll have 100 dates a year. Personally I think it would be more clever if you lowered the required points and made all points you get from phone numbers and sex etc countable for the awards. Aswell alowing you to get multiple sex-points from one girl . Just my opinion, I know I would struggle alot to put the effort into approaching 250 girls
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ Fixed. I lowered the number of approaches required for each prize, but it's important to remember that this challenge is to motivate you to go out and socialise, as well as to rewire. If it was solely rewiring, it would simply be a competition to see who can get a girlfriend first, which would neither be that challenging (look around, everyone has one), nor will it contribute significantly to our social growth. PMO-ing encourages introverted behaviour, and it's through this challenge that we break that ingrained introverted behaviour, and focus on rewiring to strengthen our socialising capabilities. 200 approaches, 300 approaches or 500 approaches really isn't that much. That's equivalent to approaching 1 or 2 women most days you walk to work/school in the morning, or when you walk to the shops in the evening. Everyone is capable of that, so now's the time to push yourself and get out there
Re: ★ The 2014 Under 20 Rewiring Thread ★ hey, i like this idea. is there some kind of thread for people over 20? I just turned 21 a few months ago, so I guess I am in an other league....lol . I will begin in 4 days with my approaching but mainly to work on my approach anxiety, so more small talk stuff, to get rid of the anxiety and change it more to direct approaching gradually.
