The 25-29 Rewiring League LAST UPDATE: 14/05/2014 The Resources section is continuously being updated. Check the Resources section below frequently for new relevant websites, articles and threads to help you with your recovery. CLICK HERE TO LOG IN OR VIEW RESULTS Participants: Currently: 1 Maximum: 10 Name: DanHibiki What Is Rewiring? Rewiring is having intimate contact with a real woman to trigger a natural arousal response. It doesn't necessarily mean sex, but having sex is the most effective way of rewiring. Hugging, kissing, touching, holding hands with a woman are all methods of rewiring. Alternatively: How To Participate In The Rewiring League: 1. Check if there are any available spaces. The maximum allowed in each league is 10 people. 2. If there are any spaces available in your age group, post on this thread stating your interest and I will add you to the league as soon as I can. 3. Once you are admitted to the league, you should log in each day and answer 5 questions. Your answers will determine your score, and hence success rate (and therefore the rank in the league). Your 5 Questions: Did you avoid watching porn today? The purpose of rewiring is to become receptive to real-life experiences and real-life women. Conditioning your brain to be aroused by porn goes against the goal of rewiring. Did you receive at least 8 hours of sleep last night? A healthy amount sleep is integral for mental and physical well-being, and is very likely to speed up the rewiring process. As our brains are in the process of changing to return to a more natural state, a longer amount of sleep than usual would be ideal. However, 8 hours as a minimum would be beneficial enough. Did you interact with a beautiful woman today for more than 2 minutes? All experiences of interacting with women in the offline world contributes and helps towards the rewiring process, as long as you feel attraction to them. Did you avoid fantasising about intimacy today? Like abstaining from porn, abstaining from fantasy further conditions your mind to tend towards being attracted to women in the real-life world, rather than virtual or imaginary women. Did you spend at least 30 minutes doing a healthy activity today? Most members of this forum right now (after countless relapses) will probably realise that abstinence is not enough. Your brain still craves dopamine, and if you don't fill the gap left from abandoning porn with a healthy hobby, you will turn to unhealthy habits which bring about a dopamine high, or back to porn itself. PLEASE NOTE: It doesn't matter if you enter later than everyone else. This will not affect your success rate. Lastly, this thread is here for group support and sharing advice, on the following topics: Rewiring: 1. Sharing your experiences on the rewiring process. 2. Requesting help on any aspect of the rewiring process. 3. Requesting and sharing your sexual experiences (especially from Karezza) to help with rewiring. Rebooting: 1. Sharing your experiences during your reboot. 2. Requesting help on any aspect of rebooting. 3. Requesting and sharing reboot advice to members of this group. Lifestyle improvement: 1. Sharing advice on improving one's lifestyle. 2. Requesting advice on how to solve a lifestyle issue. Miscellaneous: 1. Feedback about this thread. Any constructive criticism and suggestions for improvement are more than welcome. 2. Suggesting new websites, threads or topics to add to the resources section. 3. Anything else! Please minimise use of explicit or suggestive sexual language when writing your posts. Thank you. Prizes: At the end of the year, the appropriate userbar will be sent to the members who achieve a high success rate. Gold Award: 70% success rate or above Silver Award: 60% success rate or above Bronze Award: 50% success rate or above Don't let failure keep you down Useful resources: YBR Threads on Rewiring: Why rewiring is more important than rebooting The Key To Rebooting and Rewiring! Is rewiring necessary for recovery? Rewiring by visiting a prostitute in Amsterdam? Red_Raja's rewiring experience How much should you rewire? Success story by prioritising rewiring 1 Success story by prioritising rewiring 2 Success story by prioritising rewiring 3 Success story by prioritising rewiring 4 Success story by prioritising rewiring 5 Success story by prioritising rewiring 6 Success story by prioritising rewiring 7 Success story by prioritising rewiring 8 A Gary Wilson post concerning rewiring YBOP Articles on Rewiring: My rewiring strategy - User story Unwiring & Rewiring Your Brain: Sensitization and Hypofrontality Other Techniques for Rewiring Schwartz technique for rewiring OCD Do I have to have sex in order to rewire? Karezza - An Ideal Sexual Technique for Rewiring: www.reuniting.info - all about Karezza Cupid's Poisoned Arrow Karezza subreddit Lovers' Ultimate Sex Hack: Karezza Another Way to Make Love Karezza vs. Edging Karezza poll Karezza question Karezza experiment Success story from rewiring with Karezza 1 Success story from rewiring with Karezza 2 Success story from rewiring with Karezza 3 Success story from rewiring with Karezza 4 Success story from rewiring with Karezza 5 YBR Recovery Advice: 9 Tips To 90 Supersonic's 5 tips to Success How I went 90 days without masturbating (on hard mode) without breaking a sweat How I Went 100 Days Without Orgasm - My Blueprint for Success Laurynas' Recipe for Success Youngoldies Starter Kit for Rebooters PuritanWorkEthic's guide to recovery Freedomfromcybersex's tips for recovery Helpful Quotes, Food for the Journey The Top 3 Fatal Mistakes Rebooters Make YBOP and Reuniting Recovery Advice: The Big List of Tips & Tricks Drawbacks of Masturbation Section One: You Evolved to be Hooked on Porn Why Shouldn’t Johnny Watch Porn If He Likes? Porn, Novelty, and the Coolidge effect Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem Has Evolution Trained Our Brains to Gorge on Food and Sex? Porn, Novelty, and the Coolidge effect The Great Porn Experiment What If She Were Always in the Mood? When the Internet Is Better Than People Section Two: What's Driving Your Addiction? Intoxicating Behaviors: 300 Vaginas = A Lot of Dopamine Porn Then and Now: Welcome to Brain Training Why Do I Find Porn More Exciting Than A Partner? Ominous News for Porn Users: Internet Addiction Atrophies Brains Recent Internet Addiction Studies Include Porn Are You Hooked on Porn? Ask ASAM Porn On The Brain Protect Your Appetite for Pleasure What Porn Users Taught Me Kids and Porn: It Ain’t Your Father’s ‘Playboy’ Section Three: The Effects of Porn on the User Dr. Oz Show Investigates Porn-Induced ED Porn Recovery and The Mysterious Flatline Are Porn Tube Sites Causing Erectile Dysfunction? Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Is A Growing Problem Porn Problems: Here Come the Women Youthful ED: More to the Story? Quitting porn? Prepare for more vibrant emotions Young Porn Users Need Longer To Recover Their Mojo Was the Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating Too Much? Porn, Masturbation and Mojo: A Neuroscience Perspective Porn and Perception: Is Your Limbic Brain Distorting Your Vision? Can You Trust Your Johnson? “How I Recovered from Porn-related Erectile Dysfunction” ‘Straight Men, Gay Porn’ and Other Brain Map Mysteries Losing at Porn Roulette Bill Gates and Better Condoms: Error 404? As Porn Goes Up, Performance Goes Down? Wiring Sexual Tastes to Hairless Genitals...Oops! Exposure Therapy for HOCD? No Porn, Better Working Memory? Section Four: The Porn Debate Toss Your Textbooks: Docs Redefine Sexual Behavior Addictions The Other Porn Experiment Is there evidence supporting the existence of pornography addiction? Porn and DSM-5: Are Sexual Politics At Play? The Wages of Sexual-Addiction Politics Politics, Porn and Addiction Neuroscience Porn, Pseudoscience and ΔFosB Exclusion of Internet Porn Addiction Makes No Biological Sense Porn Addiction is Not Sex Addiction--And Why It Matters DSM-5 Attempts to Sweep Porn Addiction Under the Rug Measuring Porn's Effects: What About the Users? Porn Study: Does Viewing Explain Doing—Or Not? The End of The Porn Debate? How can we bring the problem of porn addiction into the mainstream? Rethinking Ogas and Gaddam's 'A Billion Wicked Thoughts' 'A Billion Wicked Thoughts' Is Only A Snapshot: Post-Porn Culture Teach Porn In Schools? Drumroll: An Academic Journal For Porn Fans Pornography Consumption Effect Scale: Useful or Not? Study: Porn Users Report Narrower Emotional Range Section Five: Relationships and Porn Guys Who Gave Up Porn: On Sex and Romance Porn, Novelty and Dissatisfaction Why Is Romeo Ignoring Juliet? Boyfriend Quitting Porn? 5 Tips Dating A Heavy Porn User? Pair Bonding 101: Beware Novelty-As-Aphrodisiac Are Pair Bonders More Vulnerable to Addiction? Section Six: Masturbation & Ejaculation Articles Rethinking the Wonders of Adult Masturbation Men: Does Frequent Ejaculation Cause A Hangover? Ejaculation: How Often for Good Health? Masturbation, Fantasy and Captivity WEIRD Masturbation Habits The Right Masturbation Advice Are You Exiting the Gene Pool Due to Low Sperm Count or ED? Vibrators and Other Pleasures: When Moderation Fails Woman, Vibrators, and Shaky Sex Research Section Seven: Sexuality and the Brain Are Sexual Tastes Immutable? First Sex: Just The Science Please Sexual Fantasy: The More You Scratch the More You Itch Do You Need a Chaser After Sex? Women: Does Orgasm Give You A Hangover? Supersize Orgasms? Sex and Morality: A Debate Between Competing Neurons New Finding Calls Into Question Assumptions About Sexuality Section Eight: Intimate Relationships and the Brain Human Brains Are Built to Fall in Love Committed Relationship: You’re Wired For It Guys: Where Do You Fall on the Monogamy Spectrum? How to Talk to Cupid The Lazy Way to Stay in Love Lovers' Ultimate Sex Hack: Karezza Staying in Love Monkey-Style Calling All Skin-Hungry Cuddle Sluts Can’t She/He See I Need Sex? Another Way to Make Love Oxytocin, Fidelity and Sex PMO-Abstinence Benefits and Success Stories: 100 Benefits of Quitting PMO 150+ pages of success stories 40 Reasons to Stop Watching Porn and Masturbating List of benefits (Reddit) List of benefits (RSD nation) Archive of successful rebooting accounts Detailed 1-90 day report with charts Synopsis of entire reboot, with mood chart 90 day reports (Reddit) Quitting porn? Prepare for more vibrant emotions Guys Who Gave Up Porn: On Sex and Romance You know Nofap is working when... (Reddit) You know Nofap is working when... (YBR) Nofap mega motivator 43 things - Stop Masturbating Success Stories List of great men/women who benefited from seminal conservation Graphs representing a member's attempt to reboot Experiences with ED and recovery PIED Recovery Stories 1 PIED Recovery Stories 2 PIED Recovery Stories 3 PIED Recovery Stories 4 PIED Recovery Stories 5 PIED Recovery Stories 6 PIED Recovery Stories 7 PIED Recovery Stories 8 PMO-Abstinence Benefits and Success Stories (25-29): 25 years old success story 25 years old success story 25 years old success story 25 years old success story 25 year old success story 25 years old success story 26 years old success story 26 years old success story 26 years old success story 27 years old success story 27 years old success story 28 years old success story 28 years old success story Websites Dedicated to Rebooting and/or Rewiring: YourBrainOnPorn - All about Rebooting, Rewiring and Recovery Reuniting.info - All about Rewiring, Karezza, and Intimacy Keine Macht Dem Porno (German) Forums Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: YourBrainRebalanced Reboot Nation Forum Reuniting Porn Addict Subforum Reddit - PornFree Subreddit Reddit - NoFap Subreddit (100,000 members) NoFap.org Chinese No PMO forum (90,000 members) Chinese No PMO forum (over 150,000 members) Online Recovery Programs: Inner Gold Online Treatment Course Feed the Right Wolf - Recovery guide The PMO-Free Challenge - A 30 day guide No Fap Academy Blogs Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: Former Porn Website The Reboot Blueprint The Sex God Project TeachMeToWalkEnlightened Life After Porn PornAddictionEnd My Brain Off Porn Building the New Just Had Enough Shuffling Monkey, Raging Stock Return to Existence The End Of Porn Recovery From Porn and Masturbation No Porn, No Masturbation, No Fantasy and No Orgasm Damnit, Penis Fuck You Dopamine Recovering Porn Guy NoFapSolideo Two Boys and Two Flaccid Cocks (Swedish) PornAddiction (Hungarian) Withdrawal from porn (Polish) Free Yourself (Polish) Diario di un Mangiatore di Cialis (Italian) Stoppmo (French) Forum Threads Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: Underdog's Absolute Must Read Threads (YBR) Porn Induced E.D. Explained (YBR) The Science Behind Porn Induced E.D. (YBR) When did your withdrawals disappear? (YBR) MedHelp - Too much porn/masturbation cause ED? (2,800 posts) MedHelp - 22 with porn induced erectile dyfunction? (450 posts) Cracked.com - The Great Internet Porn-Off, Cont. (6,800 post and growing) Bodybuilding.com - The NO FAP thread to end all no fap threads (8,800 posts) Bodybuilding.com - The NO FAP thread to end all no fap threads Version 2.0 (about 10,000 posts and growing) Bodybuilding.com - Official No fap Thread V4. Let get this started. v3 is gone. Bodybuilding.com - NO FAP thread to end ALL No Fap threads V5 (Now with FAQ’s and more!!) Bodybuilding.com - Official NoFap & NoPorn thread V5.5 Bodybuilding.com - *90 days NoFap/NoPorn - Official Thread* Bodybuilding.com - No Porn - Join in for the biggest change of your life! 43Things - How to stop masturbating to porn Reddit - Ask a guy who quit porn for 2 months now anything RedCafe.net: Manchester football - 90 day no PMO PEgym - Rebooting: (porn abstinence) (120 posts and growing) Postmasculine.com - The No-More-Porn-Thread (830 posts and growing) Insidehoops - No more fap for me (550 posts) RSDnation - My amazing story (100 posts) RSDnation - "Metamorphisis into a chick magnet" (200 posts) High Existence - No Porn, No Masturbation for 30 Days (460 posts) Kanye To The (forum) - Does NoFap actually help? BodyBuilding.com - Are you a porn addict? (a poll with comments) Elite Trader - Porn addiction and the trader NeoGAF - Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction Testosterone Nation - Porn Addiction Thread Blizzhackers - NoFap Thread UltimateGuitar.com - The Great Porn Experiment OverClokersUK - ED induced through use of porn Team Liquid - The no porn thread PEgym - Advantages of quitting porn? Dharma Talk - Masturbation & Sexual/Porn Addiction (Budhhist forum) NikeTalk - NFN Candeo - Porn Makes Men Impotent GoodLookingLoser.com - No more fapping! Join me GoodLookingLoser.com - Given up masturbation and porn grasscity.com - Anyone else dealing with this "Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction" Bullshit? The Student Room UK - *No Fap 2013* SoSuave - No Fap Challenge Progress Phantasy Tours - dudes who quit the internet porn E46Fanatics - No Fap has changed my life.......serious. 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(Serbian) jeuxvideo.com - The effects of porn (French) Forum.Hr - Fapstronaut Program (Croatian) 3D Supply - Der Thread zum Spermtakel (German) Freak.no (Norwegian) KasKus.co.id (Indonesian) LunaGang - Pornography, and masturbation addiction (Dutch) Articles Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: How And Why To Give Up Pornography How I Stopped Masturbating to Internet Porn and How it Changed My Life Built to Achieve - Finally reached 90 days of NoFap after two years of trying! BreaktheFear.com - My Porn Addiction — A 60-day Challenge of no Porn or Masturbation A Nerd Addicted to Porn Masturbation is not healthy for you, contrary to popular belief PORN: How giving it up has changed my life - "Naughty Nomad" Manosphere: Pornography How to go from Willy Wanker to Billy Badass in 1 Easy Step Videos Relevant for Porn Addiction Recovery: Why I stopped watching porn: Ran Gavrieli at TEDx Howcast - Can Porn Addiction be cured? Howcast - Why Porn is Addictive? 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Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ This thread is for checking in monthly with your spreadsheet screenshots. If this thread was in the groups section, it would sink into obscurity after a month of no updates, so many people would forget to update. If both threads were merged, then i think it would look too messy. It's more orderly if everyone's spreadsheet screenshots are in the same place and hence easy to compare.
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ Good idea. I'll do that. I'm not sure why you can't send PM's to me. I'll have a look at my account settings, so check again later - i certainly didn't block you!
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ I would've like to participate, but idea of typing each day into spreadsheet is kinda annoying to me. Maybe there's alternative where you could enter data with just few mouse clicks. And btw - great idea, great post! I didn't mean to criticize other parts, because I've been looking for this since the past year. And finally someone made it happen. All these graphics, data - looks nice, I just don't like the way how you have to enter the result. Ryan94 Thanks for the efforts, I hope it'll help to encourage other members to rewire for real.
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ Hey DanHibiki, thanks for the comment. Though i'm not sure why you deem it so complicated. I tried to make it as simple as possible, considering dating isn't all that straightforward. All you need to do is type '1' under approaches if you made 1 approach. Or type '2' if you made 2 approaches, etc. I've added all the necessary formulae and formatting to make the rest as simple as possible, so i'm not sure how i can make it easier. I think you're thinking it's more complicated than it actually is- why not try it out and see how you go?
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ Group thread and Main thread have been merged. Open discussions and daily updates are now allowed on this thread ;D
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ I think smiling at her when just the two of you are there alone with each other for a prolonged period of time is a bit weird. Smiling at her is (imho) mainly used to get the attention of a girl you can't immediately approach because of heavy public pressure (e.g. On a crowded train). When it's just the two of you alone, you just got to smile at her quickly but prioritise on going there and say hi! Smiling is kind of hard to pull off right without looking creepy. Practise a lot, but when you smile at a girl, keep your mouth closed. Showing teeth in your smile really takes out the mystery and allure in a man's smile (again, only imho). Make your smile a bit subtle, you don't want to look like you're going to burst into laughter- but to show you find her interesting and intriguing. Lastly, look to her using the side of your eyes, and make sure she notices. Staring at her with your face fully looking at her looks really creepy. So what i do is just look over her eyes for a split second and then look into the distance. This will usually cause her to notice me and turn around. What's important here is that you must make it seem that she looked at you first before you looked at her. It sets the precedent of her chasing you. When she turns her head to look at you, she will only look at you for a second or less, so timing is important in this stage. Just when she's about to look at you, turn your head slightly (and slowly!) and return her gaze. Look straight between her eyes using the corner of your eyes and smile softly, with the smile extending more on one side than the other. Then say hi (she will never speak first!). You can apply this to any situation. But when there's more distactions, practise on making it seem more noticeable to her while still staying smooth and controlled. This is all my experience after so many approaches, so take from that what you will. Hope it is useful for you and you can use it to approach women soon
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ Dang 500 unique approaches in 10 months?? That sounds like a full time job ;D
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ It's just because I don't have MS Excel, or any other office-type apps, and because I'm quite lazy. Though I think I'll give it a try it on google docs. Smiling actually is very good, if you have balls to do it, you can gauge girl's response, and if she smiles back, you can go for an approach if you want.My problem is that I think this may looks creepy, dang it's a great idea, should do it myself.
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ Oh fair enough. I'm not sure whether it'll work on google docs. I'll add you to the challenge anyway. As you don't have MS excel, then keeping track of your approaches, numbers, dates, etc with a pen and paper will suffice. Just post the amount of approaches you made, numbers you got, dates you had, etc at the end of each month.
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ I know what that's like! Been there many times. There seems to be a connection between the addiction and the nervousness and hesitation factor. One other thing, I can't speak for others, but for those with me seeking intimacy without a properly consecrated marriage is not appropriate under our law. You would only hurt yourself further, quite badly actually and I have already, though it can be forgiven but there is always a price. I admit I have stumbled more than I would like but I'm back now and the past is the past. I'm thankful that trust can be established again or I would be finished without mercy. Other than this I think this idea has some potential to encourage people to be more outgoing.
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ Thanks. Missed an opportunity today. A good looking girl in front of me walking down park area in a nice dress, I wasn't sure if I should whistle at her or not, but on reflection I think I should have just to let her know. It is appropriate to whistle at someone you like? I think it is if you do it in the right way.
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ This sounds like an interesting idea, but I have social anxiety and I get panick attacks when trying to approach girls. Also, I have no clue how to approach girls or where to go to approach girls other than bars & clubs. I need some resources explaining exactly how to go about approaching girls, what to say exactly, how to tell if a girl is open to being approached, and where to find girls to approach. Also what about dating sites? Does sending a message to a girl count as an approach? Or speed dating events?
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ I have had the same issue. This is what I noticed when you quit masturbating something changes in you. The social anxiety starts to fade and you get this motivation to approach girls. I'm starting to think that the condition is caused by the addiction mostly, it's destroys your confidence and self esteem somehow. In terms of where to go or what to do. I would advise against 'player' advice. It's not exactly cold science that you can calculate or plan it so much. There is these tony robin type people that make a tone of money of people like us when we are desperate. Truth is we don't need advice, cause it's inbuilt when you get in touch with your masculinity again, you feel what to do and what is appropriate. But as a man I think we need to realize that we are required to be assertive but respectful. Not timid, but not rude. We are the ones expected to act. It's also easier to meet girls from within your sphere of activity rather than going to random clubs. You organize your life where you having regular community things going on, or your job. And you are then naturally surrounded by people with a common ground. From there you can make friends and know tones of people and branch out. The only time you meet random girls at clubs I have noticed is when you are already out with friends, then it can sometimes happen by chance. Things like going to the gym or library regular even, or the local pool or beach. Events ect. None of this really helps much unless you have your life structured around opportunities to meet people. It's not really a case of just going out randomly and picking someone up. Doesn't usually work that way, and for us it's almost impossible to pull something like that off. I use to have this strange notion in my mind that all girls want to run away from someone trying to approach them. That usually isn't realistic and it doesn't help me clearly. I have started to realize the more realistic view that women actually want to be approached and they like it. It doesn't really matter who you are, anyone can do it.
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ I didn't have the balls to say hi to her behind her back, she had earphones on so probably couldn't even hear me haha. I would say a big no to speed dating or online dating mostly because it really comes across as something fairly lost people do. Would you consider your wife secure and capable if you met her at a speed dating or online dating site? I would say that in itself is not a good foundation to look from. It's not needed in my opinion.
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ Whistling is absolutely not appropriate. A woman would like to be approached like a woman, not like she was a dog. But it's okay, we're all learners here. Smile when you see her. If she smiles back or looks down before you approach her and say hi, you're golden (if she quickly looks to the side, it's 50/50, if she looks up, expect little from her).
Re: ★ The 2014 25-29 Rewiring Thread ★ I totally sympathise with you if you feel you're at a disadvantage based on your past experiences (like panic attacks). The cause of these panic attacks is that the mind just isn't used to situations where you're approaching women. The brain interprets novel situations as potential threats. Approaching a woman could lead to you being publicly embarressed, or her big boyfriend/admirer getting jealous and beating you up (all very unlikely. Women always avoid confrontation if they don't know you well). So your body goes into a flight-or-fight response with a lot of adrenaline being produced at that moment. This will happen a few times at the beginning, so i'm afraid you'll just have to brave it through. Try breathing deep, slow breaths before you do so, count down from 5 and once you reach 0, just go there and approach her. Your mind is your greatest enemy when you're trying to improve. It doesn't want you to improve. It wants you to stay in safe, comfortable zone of average and survive. Improvement means risk and potential damage/discomfort, which goes against the brain's fight for survival. Though i suppose you would have found this out already from your experiences with porn. It doesn't matter if you feel difficulty from this. You just have to adapt the mindset of not quitting no matter what. I have a type of dyslexia which means I have a slow processing speed which makes conversation very difficult for me. I got around this through speech classes, public speaking and lots of practice. But that all counted for naught when i began approaching women and i went through that fight-or-flight experience. It gets much better after a while though. Eventually, your brain realises that these experiences are probably not going to lead to your death, even if you make a few mistakes (like riding a bike i suppose). And approaching a woman just becomes second nature and very exciting and enjoyable. Most guys never get to the point of comfort with women because they quit after their experience of flight-or-fight. They try to take easy ways out through trying to date the women at work (who the brain sees as familiar and hence not high-risk), internet dating or other means. Dating sites are an absolute no-no. You will find no love from the internet (not an absolute rule- just take this as a guideline). This whole thread would be pointless if it was just about finding women. The main purpose of this thread is to rewire in a healthy and proactive way that makes you into a better, rounded and more confident man. This is done by socialising and interacting and hence becoming more familiar with women (rewiring). Getting into a relationship/sex is just a welcome by-product. Speed dating is kind of like living on dust if you want to lose weight, or becoming a hermit if you want to quit internet addicton. It may give you results, but neither the results nor the process really improves you or solves your original problem (here: social anxiety and fear of meeting women). It just sweeps it under the carpet. 80% of the women you meet in speed dating aren't going to be the ideal woman you'll want for a long term relationship. They're likely to have baggage from bad experiences with past relationships. So for those reasons, speed dating is out (do it if you want by all means and share your experiences on here if you wish, but i don't see it as an 'approach'). In regards to articles or other material to help you approach, a lot of stuff out there (Pick up material in particular) is a bit poisonous for people here. It puts far too much emphasis on finding a girl and manipulating her to have sex with within the first few days of meeting her (they all deny manipulation techniques are involved, but it basically is what it is). Not only is the type of girl who falls for this not ideal for a relationship (likely insecure women or nymphomaniacs who create instability), but they totally miss the important act of setting the foundations for a happy and understanding relationship. The first 60 days will set the tone of the relationship and how she will see you forever. During that time, you want her to always be chasing you, building trust and a good understanding of each other. Sex on the other hand satisfies, it does not excite afterwards. You'll want to save this for the end and draw this out as long as possible if you feel she's Miss Right, to the point where her interest level is at it's maximum and she's almost demanding you to sleep with her. Then she is yours. It is my opinion that Pick up techniques will just convert people here into sex addicts. Totally missing the idea of building a loving relationship. What works for rewiring with a pretty but romantically unsuitable girl, will not work for rewiring with Miss Right. A system of incorporating the two (a method of effectively rewiring with a girl if she's romantically unsuitable while able to create the foundations of a healthy relationship if she's Miss right) was difficult to find, but i did find something. I will put this material up sometime this month, so keep checking this thread for updates.
