tsmith1302, I am tx,i am 23 years old,addictied to PMO for a long time and also a schizophrenia sufferer,i want to know does quitting PMO help you get off your antipsychotic and live a normal life?Does quitting PMO help out the negative symptoms like asocial(lack of social life),amotivation(lack of motivation),alogia(lack of speech)?I seriously am confuse what to do with my life,i had no friends,am visiting a psychiatrist and taking abilify 5mg(antipsychotic),for 4 years already and i feel depressed about that,i wonder how does this stopping PMO help you on issues like these?? are you still on meds?i need to do something soon,i am still holding my V card at such a old age and never kissed or been in a relationship,i hope Nofap can help me get out of these?
Hey mobc1990, I will reply to your post later, either on here or in a PM. For now though I have to give everybody a quick update *Trigger warning* Alright, so on Thursday I was messaging this 21 year-old girl on my dating app. We started sexting (surprise surprise) and then yesterday she told me she wanted to hang out. Well shit, that works for me. So I invited her over to my place. When she got here, she looked much worse than she did in the pictures. Honestly... she was so fucking fat. But, not to be deterred, I went a long with the plan. I had taken a shitload of horny goat weed the last two days, so why let it go to waste. We had a few beers, watched some bullshit comedy movie on Netflix, and started hooking up. It was decent... but she was so fucking fat. We made out for a while, and I got a blowjob. Don't get me wrong, it was cool because it's not everyday that some girl comes to my apartment and gives me a blowjob. But... she was so fucking fat. Cid can vouch for me, the pictures she sent me of her tits were phenomenal. But I guess any chubby girl has big tits in proportion to the rest of their fat body. Because... she was so fucking fat. She was also annoying. I enjoyed talking to her on the phone before we met, in person though after about 15 minutes I was ready to throw in the towel. Plus... she was so fucking fat. Again, all things considered, I'm not complaining. These random little internet hook-ups are big confidence builders for me. I just wish she wasn't so fucking fat.
Oh man, that was pretty much the exact same experience I had last year. Like you I went ahead with it. And then I lost my virginity to her too. Ah well, good times!
Maybe try meeting up with your buddy and his girlfriend with her friend again? If they were egging you on to make a move then you have a good shot.
I keep telling you that sexting is a terrible way to meet women, for several reasons. I also thought that she could be using her arm to sustain fat, saggy tits in the first picture. Didn't tell you that because I didn't wanted to piss on your plans. The amount of expectation you built over such a longshot of a good date reminds me of when I was 15 and a girl called me out of nowhere to ask me out because she saw me somewhere and thought I was cute. I felt like I had won the lottery but as you can imagine she was absolutely hideous.
@Superduper Yea, I kind of feel like hooking up with a chubby girl is a rite of passage for most guys @Eltino LOL @Cid You may win this round, but I still got a BJ out of it @Gameover I've been continuing to talk to the girl from Friday night, and I think it's worth pursuing. She was pretty easy on the eyes, especially compared to Miss Piggy from yesterday @Cham and @Strongerbolder It's not like she was 300 lbs, but she was hefty. Especially compared to her pictures where she looked decent. I guess in her case the camera subtracts 20 pounds @Loro I think it's a toss up. The hook-ups help me because I still feel pretty inexperienced sexually, and behind the curve with women in general. Bringing a chubby girl over to your place is the kind of thing most guys did in college, stuff I was always too timid to do in my PMO haze. So now I'm basically making up for lost time. But I agree with you, there is something lacking compared to going out & talking to "real girls" that I'm genuinely attracted to. So point taken. I'm still texting (NOT sexting) the girl from Friday, she seems interested. If she comes over again I would probably make a move, especially after my little "victory" last night. But we'll see - I don't want to get too far ahead of myself. I think you guys will appreciate this... It's a video I took of me and the girl hanging out yesterday: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yK8eHTcYwbY
A blowjob from Miss Piggy? I think I'll pass. And that video was hilarious. It amazes me that so many guys actually go through shit like that.
From what I can gather.... That bitch was fucking fat as Hell. I think you had a bad night not because of the MO, but because we both know how insanely retarded you are when you smoke. The dank tank was just too much man.
Alright, well as far as my own personal history I was diagnosed with depression, bi-polar disorder & attention deficit disorder as a teenager. I was put on anti-depressants and concerta, which worked for maybe a year or two. Then they were much less effective, and on top of that I was abusing drugs and alcohol and just a very confused & immature kid. This lead to a schizophrenia episode that lasted about 6 weeks where I completely lost my grip on reality and suffered from extreme paranoia. So I'm not schizophrenic per se but I did show symptoms of it as well as a history of mental illness in general. All of this happened between 2003 - 2006. From 2006 to 2009 I was on maintenance doses of anti-psychotics, which were gradually lowered over time because I showed much improvement and I was getting back to the normal swing of life. By mid 2009 (age 23) I was completely off my medicine and for all intents and purposes my mental illness was in the past. I did still struggle with depression, but it was manageable. It wasn't until 2012 that I started PMO rebooting, so yes the whole time during my illness and afterward I was PMO'ing any chance I got. It is only in the last year and a half that I have gotten a handle on porn use and moved away from it. I was already off anti-psychotics for about 2 years, so I can't say there was any relationship between one or the other. Now, to you answer your questions. Quitting PMO will help you address issues of compulsive behavior, where your brain always wants to be stimulated. Quitting PMO will not "fix your problems" but you move away from a brain pattern which is wired for quick and instant gratification and then a shitty comedown. This constant cycle has many side effects including depression, lethargy, anxiety, etc. Our brains just aren't build for this rapid fire up/down ride that we give it. So, as your brain moves away from it you start to feel a wide reaching appreciation of the little things in life, not just always looking for a quick fix. Again, your problems don't go away - but your mood will begin to level and not always require a rush to feel satisfied. And perhaps more importantly you deal with the lows in a way that is healthy. You can address your problems head on, you can be upset or frustrated or angry without always reaching for the quick high that is a porn video. The healing process is slow and takes time. Think of it as planting a seed and watching it grow - not that you are trying to win a game or race to the finish line. I don't have much experience with No Fap, people say it helps with social anxiety alot, but it's also very difficult. I've always felt it's better to totally get a handle on porn first and worry about masturbation later. It may take some trial and error, the bottom line is do what works. If masturbating to sensation helps you avoid PMO, go for it; if you can go on a long run abstaining from both, do that. As for your medicines, tell your doctor you want to reduce your dosage and see what he says. Any good doctor worth a salt should help you taper off your medicine since that is what is truly in your best interest. I would also recommend you consult with a natural practitioner, maybe he can work with your doctor to transition you from pharmaceuticals (which I am very much against) and towards natural alternatives like therapy, exercise, better diet, supplements, etc. Good luck to you my friend.
*TRIGGER WARNING* Tsmith got laid again! Alright, so after god knows how long I finally met the married woman and we did the deed. She was REALLY into it. It went really well. Erection was good. My sensitivity was decent, probably should have been better but I've been masturbating a lot lately. I'll work on that (there you go Loro). No PE whatsoever. In fact I lasted a really long time, to the point she got worn out, so I made myself climax otherwise I could have kept going. I still don't feel confident with the mechanics of different positions, but I'm getting there. She told me she wants to meet again. On my way driving back she sent me a text literally thanking me for fucking her. Uh, you're welcome. Today was an awesome victory for me. She's the second girl I've hooked up with this week. How about that for a change of pace? I'll try not to get all Journey to Freedom on you guys though, I promise.
Thank God the fat chick went over to yours instead of you going to hers because you could've been chopped up to pieces and eaten up...at her apartment. That's me with the banjo. Lol good job, man. Sensitivity-wise, I wonder how much of it is because you've MOed too much and how much of it is because you THINK you've MOed too much. With my girlfriend, I can cum with her hands but struggle when she uses her mouth or when I'm in her. She tells me it's because I think I have to cum in her mouth or in her and that's why I tense up.
Thats great news mate. When you say you had no erection issues, do you get hard and stay hard from foreplay?
Thanks Aussie. I got hard from foreplay but the erection wouldn't lock. I did also lose it once or twice but my flaccid size is good so we would keep going and I'd get hard again. Similar to Pedigree, my erection quality was best when in her hands or mouth, it got weaker during insertion but then again I was wearing a rubber. Also I took one of these before meeting her, I like to give myself a boost when possible: http://www.vitaminshoppe.com/p/source-naturals-male-response-45-tablets/sr-5690 To be honest I've had better erections in the past. I've been eating a lot of garbage lately so I'm thinking that knocked down my EQ a point or two. But she was REALLY into it and I got her off a couple times. I'm starting to realize we don't need to have to perfection erections, as long as the woman is satisfied it should be considered good sex.
Told you that you should do it. Whatever moral reason that could've stopped you wouldn't matter in the future. All you'd remember was the missing opportunity.
The O's are what keeps your erections from being 100% man. I notice with my girl, if I go 3+ days without ejaculating, I'll then be hard as fuck for the sex. But if I have O'd (from sex or otherwise) and sex it up latter in the same day or next day, I won't be that hard and she clearly doesn't enjoy it the same. This sounds like it's pretty logical, I think we just forget obvious stuff like this since we tend to go too detailed into our thoughts with this whole topic.