The Ramblings of Modus

Discussion in 'Pornography Addiction' started by ModusVivendi, May 15, 2013.

  1. Chammorrow

    Chammorrow Member

    Good Job Partner

    NOooo

    I haven't seen it yet, but I have very high expectations. From what I've heard, people are saying it's a somber and serious movie, but very good. But you didn't like it... Ill guess I'll have to see for myself

    Good move, if you open the door for her, you would have looked like such a dope...unless you were doing it in a joking manner

    You can't make girls stomach hurt laugh all the time, but if you are able to do that at least once during a date...the girl will never say that you are unfunny...it's a hard thing to do though, especially if she doesn't share your sense of humor.

    Sorry.......................................................I'm taking that line. That is just too good and fresh.

    A little apprehensive?..Well, I guess that is a good thing at this stage. You wouldn't want an overly aggressive girl on the first date...because that implies that shes overly aggressive with all guys in a first date. A little shy, but this seems like a good girl though. Glad that you had the guts to pull some of these moves, even if you embarrass yourself, that the way to go out..with no regrets.

    And detail is fine (learning a bit from my journal type huh :) ), it was fun reading that experience..and I also get a feel for what kind of social person you are too Modus...very good.

    Have fun during your "study session" at her house lol
     
  2. Pedigree

    Pedigree Active Member

    Yeah, I think she's already wondering if that's a bird or a plane down your pants, so you might as well show her that it's your Man of Steel.

    You owe me royalties if you use that line, mate.
     
  3. ModusVivendi

    ModusVivendi New Member

    Thanks Pedigree, Cham, Hands, gameover and Cesar.

    So the whole me popping a big boner everytime I touch her or make out with her is becoming an issue. Saw her on campus today and we went to private areas to get touchy-feely and making out. So I was annoyed by the boner thing but I still don't hide it when we're making out; I said "there you go getting me all excited down there ;]"and she let out a shy laugh.

    It's like tsmith said to me though: at first she's like "oooohhh" about it, but then it'll be more like an "uhh....". I'm almost positive that's where it will lead to eventually.

    I'm thinking of possibly saying something like "ok, I'll be honest, it has happened to me before, but it's been like at least a year since the last girl this happened with". Plannin on saying that in a light manner of course, not like self pity.

    I don't know. Have you guys experienced this? Is it because it's been fucking 2+ years since I've been intimate with a woman?
    Cham, you with erika when you would only see her seldomly?
    Cesar? You prob don't since you've consistently spent time with chicks

    I even PMOed the last 2 nights and I still rock a mean boner. At one point when we were walking around campus today, I had my arm around her and was like fucking 75% erect. My jeans that I've been wearing each time now for this reason do ok at hiding it, but that much erect, someone looking from my side or directly at me would def notice. Good thing it's summer and the campus is almost dead.

    I also noticed that like 85% of chicks today that walked by me would make sure they checked me out well (when I was with her today), before they walked by me.. Kinda weird.

    So any help with the boner thing from anyone is appreciated.
     
  4. ModusVivendi

    ModusVivendi New Member

    I don't want this to detract from my previous post since I would like replies to that, but I've gotta say it before I forget.

    One thing that EVERY chick I've tried this on has glowing eyes after hearing this, is I try to act like a protector for them. IE they're say something that barely even calls for this, such as a guy in one of their classes was being a clown and happens to sit next to them, I'll be like "who is this guy? *squints eyes* is he bothering you, you want me to take care of him?", or "you want me to go talk to him? I'll go talk to this guy".

    and BAM! Their fucking eyes are glowing and they have a wide smile on their face as they say "ohhh no, no, it's ok it's nothing bad like that".

    I thank Robert DeNiro, Joe Pesci and Martin Scorcese for this :D. However if they're like "yes", I'm screwed, LMAO.
     
  5. VeniVidiVici

    VeniVidiVici New Member

    Yup have had that happen multiple times (the last bit). Some girls get all defensive, since they "can take of of themselves", but most girls love it. About the boner thing, be happy that you are that responsive, I'm pretty sure it will pass in due time.
     
  6. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    Hmmmmm. That's a good idea, but maybe don't put a time table on it? Like, "this happens to me sometimes, but not often ;)"

    Definitely a sign that everything is working down there (dick) and up there (brain). A lot of guys would love to be in your shoes. Even me, I don't have ED problems, but it still takes some good stimulation for me to get erect. You're popping boners without even trying, well done. That's some caveman shit. A blessing and a curse I guess, but mostly a blessing.

    That's the way it works! In dating the rich get richer.
     
  7. Chammorrow

    Chammorrow Member

    Dude I have that problem all the time, and it's really frustrating. Some days I can't really wear my tight fitting polos, and skinny jeans because my dong will be shown to the world...and the crazy thing is that this is usually with me just having a semi boner, not the full one. Every guy say that I should be happy about that problem...but I'm not, it is still a problem, and nobody can take you seriously if your bulge is overly obvious.

    However, this is only a problem when I want to wear really tight fitting things, as far as having a full boner in public, that happens a lot during class, if Im sitting by a hot chick..but I make sure that it's not noticeable. and when class ends sometimes I have to stay sitted for a minute (pretending to shuffle my books back to my bag) and let it cool down before I can stand up. But Honestly, that only happens when I am aware of the hot chick by me, if I'm actually paying attention in class, there is no boner.

    When I sat by Elaine in math class time, two year ago, she would whisper sexual themes in my ear during class ( we sat in the back) and would watch as my bulge grew bigger...and then she would stare at it( sometimes I got boners just looking at Elaines face sigh)...no no I didn't enjoy it..she was doing it to mess with me. But besides that, I've never had such an obvious boner that people could notice, that would be disastrous.

    Anyway, to answer you question about when I was with Erika..it's really weird, and maybe some people on the forum can relate, but when I am with Erika..it seemed like my boner disappeared...like walking with her, hugging her, sitting close to her...I never had a boner..and this is good..and I just notice that this was the opposite than when I looked at Elaine

    I think this had to do with the way I looked at Erika. There is a difference between hotness and beauty. Erika was beauty, and her beauty sobered me in some way. My sexual urges relaxed everytime I was with Erika.

    Don't get me wrong though, when we would make out, or dance, or even when we wrestled ( lol she's so aggressive for a petite girl), my boner was 100 hard on..but that was when we were actually engaging in sexual enticement. But when talking with Erika, I wasn't thinking about " all the nasty stuff I'll do to you gurrlll".

    So in short, I think you need to relax more around her, don't make it a big deal, and don't get too excited..you should be able to kiss her without a boner, and definitely be able to walk around with her without one..you're right, she may be intrigued now, but that may turn into disgust later..
     
  8. ModusVivendi

    ModusVivendi New Member

    Thanks Cham, tsmith and Cesar. Your replies made me feel better and I was reminded of some parts of what you guys said throughout the dates we went on this passed week.

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    So, the news:
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o

    4 times, in 12 hours, BAM! If it means anything, I PMOed every other day that week (although it means nothing).

    We were on the 3rd date in 3 consecutive nights. The previous 2 nights we just watched a film and cuddled/made out in the living room. I fucking loved it. 3rd night was the same, but she finally invited me to her room to just sleep, lol. As soon as we got into bed, making out led to clothes coming off, and we started.

    1st time: It was 3 fucking AM. I had both ED (60% erect) and DE (but at least my greatest fear, PE, was far from being present, lol). Again though, I reitirate, it was 3 AM. I had been awake for 21 hours, I just wanted to fucking sleep, so I'm almost positive that played a big role; I just wanted to fucking pass out. Nonetheless it was solid, and after eating her pussy while stroking myself, I was able to cum. She said however "omg I was so close to cumming :["

    2nd time: 30 minutes later. I was wide awake this time (Idk how or why), and this time it was fucking AMAZING!!!!!! I lasted about 15 minutes (I could've went longer, but didn't want to), and had absolutely no DE or ED. She said it was amazing, and that she came, almost a second time too, within it.

    3rd time was when we awoke. I loved it, as did she, and no ED, DE, or PE. 4th time we ran out of condoms, so we kind of experimented lol, I won't go into detail.

    Throughout this whole time I spent with her I received so many fucking compliments, my confidence completely skyrocketed. I now know that some of which I thought were my strengths really are, in relations to looks, attitude and dress style.

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    I'm now realizing what a huge accomplishment this has been for me. 12 months ago I would walk into my classes, appreciate the most beautiful chick in class without saying a fucking word to her, and then think of her beauty when PMOing once getting home as my nightly PMO, ughhh.

    From then, to now: where I just got laid with the hottest chick in class, the one I eyed from the very first day. My dopamine is satisfied like no other, I mean to walk in a class of 30 girls, eye out the one chick you want to get in bed with and achieve so within 1 month, it's fucking incredible. It shows you guys, HARD WORK PAYS OFF!!!!!! Some of you know exactly what kind of hardships I had to face throughout this.

    From the cold approaching, to the rejections; the 175 days of no porn to reboot myself, to the cold showers and the paleo diets; and from the extensive workouts to finding a new, good group of outgoing friends (one of which has been an immense help to me getting with this girl) all played a role to me getting here. I tell you guys, there's no way but up from here. Once I get that apartment, I will be in heaven.

    I say all of that to hopefully motivate you guys: don't half ass this. The hard work will reap some great fucking rewards, I promise you this. If there's a single word of advice I can give to you guys: Perseverance. I love some of you guys, I only want to see you guys succeed, and I thank you all for your help.
     
  9. Eternity

    Eternity Patience

    That's great to hear, you've certainly come a long way. One day, I'll get there.
     
  10. Pedigree

    Pedigree Active Member

    When I read Modus' post, I was like:

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  11. gameover

    gameover Age: 26

    Sounds great mate. Congrats. Happy it all worked out for you.
     
  12. fullset

    fullset Member

    You da fuckin' man!
     
  13. VeniVidiVici

    VeniVidiVici New Member

    Congrats mate, really happy for you!! :)
     
  14. tsmith1302

    tsmith1302 Active Member

    Instead of giving you a high five like everybody else, I will be somewhat of a devil's advocate and deviate here.

    The one piece of advice I would offer? Just remember to stay grounded and keep everything in perspective.

    When I got laid, both times but especially the first time, I felt like I was king of the world. I remember thinking to myself... I have figured this shit out. I could have and probably did write damn near the same post you did. All of my hard work has been rewarded, I ate the right foods, hung out with the right people, and pushed myself to greatness, etc etc. I went so far as to spend $300+ on a rare pair of sneakers, a little "gift to myself" considering all of the money I would not be spending on strippers and massages. No more lonely nights for tsmith. Getting laid would be on autopilot and finding a girl to hook up with would be the least of my worries. Hell if I did it once, why can't I do it whenever I want?

    Well, in no time at all I crashed and felt like shit again. In fact, ever since then I've been bouncing back and forth between relapsing, feeling dodgy and then having spurts of confidence. It's really just a cycle. Happy and self assured, miserable and frustrated, rinse and repeat.

    I certainly hope you have more ups than downs. You probably will. But as far as it being a smooth ride from here without the trials and tribulations of your PMO/ pre-Paleo diet days? Life just doesn't seem to work that way. There will be new challenges, new headaches and new heartbreaks. And in that same vein, new achievements, new "I DID IT!!" posts and new pussyyyyy. Some days you're the pigeon and some days you're the statue.
     

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